- Sep 29, 2004
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Hi all,
My husband and I have been in a whirlwind over the past few weeks. Thank you to everyone who prayed for us.
I wanted to break up, then he wanted to break up, then I moved out and missed him terribly, now we're back together. It's just been really stressful and messy and it's taken a bit toll on both of us.
I really thought we would not get back together but I prayed to God for a miracle, confessed my sins and put my husband first. I got rid of all of my resentment (or God got rid of it for me I think) and all I could think of is what I need to change in myself, instead of thinking what my husband needs to change. It felt like everything was so different, we got back together and it's been great. I started feeling happy which I have not felt for years.
Then I came home from an 18 hour shift at work, my husband is now unemployed because he didn't show up to work.. and he told me he'd do housework and he did literally none.
I am finding it extremely hard not to fall back into our old rut because I feel like he is not making the same changes as I am. It's killed the happiness I had and I find it really hard to appreciate him and be attracted to him when he's lazy.
I am really scared that I have made the wrong choice and that if I stay with him, we're never going to have any money, house.. he says he never wants kids and I do in a few years (I think!).. we disagree on a lot.
I don't want to fly off the handle and make hasty decisions and say things I will regret. I just feel so neglected and angry and I don't know how to change my feelings. I havent said any of this to my husband, because I agreed to change, I agreed I wouldn't spill all my emotions on him 24/7 anymore. But I feel like he is not working with me or making changes
How can a wife appreciate her husband when he is depressed and not being supportive, how can I have compassion for him instead of resentment? Its hard because he doesnt have much compassion for me when I get depressed. I am trying so hard to be patient but the resentment is growing
My husband and I have been in a whirlwind over the past few weeks. Thank you to everyone who prayed for us.
I wanted to break up, then he wanted to break up, then I moved out and missed him terribly, now we're back together. It's just been really stressful and messy and it's taken a bit toll on both of us.
I really thought we would not get back together but I prayed to God for a miracle, confessed my sins and put my husband first. I got rid of all of my resentment (or God got rid of it for me I think) and all I could think of is what I need to change in myself, instead of thinking what my husband needs to change. It felt like everything was so different, we got back together and it's been great. I started feeling happy which I have not felt for years.
Then I came home from an 18 hour shift at work, my husband is now unemployed because he didn't show up to work.. and he told me he'd do housework and he did literally none.
I am finding it extremely hard not to fall back into our old rut because I feel like he is not making the same changes as I am. It's killed the happiness I had and I find it really hard to appreciate him and be attracted to him when he's lazy.
I am really scared that I have made the wrong choice and that if I stay with him, we're never going to have any money, house.. he says he never wants kids and I do in a few years (I think!).. we disagree on a lot.
I don't want to fly off the handle and make hasty decisions and say things I will regret. I just feel so neglected and angry and I don't know how to change my feelings. I havent said any of this to my husband, because I agreed to change, I agreed I wouldn't spill all my emotions on him 24/7 anymore. But I feel like he is not working with me or making changes
How can a wife appreciate her husband when he is depressed and not being supportive, how can I have compassion for him instead of resentment? Its hard because he doesnt have much compassion for me when I get depressed. I am trying so hard to be patient but the resentment is growing