How can I just take the abuse

[alilsa]

I can't stop getting abused, and today was worse. I got really hurt on my job but since I can't just quit yet, I have to put up with getting abused. I have a big bruies from getting hit hard. I get yelled at and I can't help it. I can't understand what the leader says, he has a speech problem. He got angry and ripped the door off the small freezer at work and threw it. I got hit with it. The manager just chewed me out because I am suppose to do my job and part of his, too. I got abused but I tried hard to not cry since I'm not suppose to cut at work. But I still got burned, cuts and bruises from work. So, do I try to think of happy things, think of songs to sing silently, shut out what is going on around me just to get through my day, what? I tried splitting but then I had trouble paying attention so splitting made it worse. I feel worth less because I have to just take getting abused but I can't do anything about it right now. I really wanted to cut myself alot worse than I did but just made bad scratches on my arms and was burning myself to try to reduce the stress.

 

[chilibowl]

are you getting professional help with this?

 

[Mz_Heidi]

I Honestly Think That You Should Get a New Job! Why Dont You Search For New Jobs? I Never Heard Of Kind Of Jobs Where They Can JusT Abuse You And Get Away With It. Please It Is Not Worth Keeping It When It Is Making You Feel Worthless And If It Makes You Wanna Give Up In Live. Just Keep Trying. God Has A Plan For You! Dont Give That Up. Can't You Sue Them For Hurting You So Much?

 

[Silent Enigma]

Wow, quit your job right away. Find a kind church that will help you out.

 

[Johnnz]

A new job.

You haveben assaulted. You could take police action.

John
NZ

 

[ZACTAK]

why can't you quit? Report it to the police and file assault and battery charges against them.

 

[soyness]

Does this place have an ethics code?

 

[doofus125]

Quite honestly, contact an attorney for advisement, those are grounds for fileing harrassment charges and sueing the pants off of the company for allowing you to be subject to this abuse.

Also, document all occurences or problems so you have proof.

 

[Talie]

document everything, take pictures of your bruises etc and find a witness - surely there's been someone else to see what's going on if this is an ongoing thing?

 

[Godlovesusall]

First off, don't ever think you have to stand there and accept abuse. EVER. It is WRONG, no matter how much you are struggling finacially, something will come along, a church will help you out, something, but you need to get out of your workplace immediately, contact the police, and take them to court. Abuse, whether it be physical, emotional or any other form, is UNACCEPTABLE. It will destroy you emotionally if you don't get out now. I will pray that you can gather the courage, God Bless!

Your Sis in Christ,
D.

 

[Godsgirl481]

Ummm...you look like you are in the good ol USA....you have something here called Labor Laws, Child Labor Laws if you are under 18...Employer Laws, OSHA Laws...you do not have to loose your job to make this better. No employee in America has to put up with that...that is crazy. Go to the work force in your city and make a complaint about this. You can even sue them for loads of money...and WIN!!!!

 

[madison1101]

Go to the police station and file charges of assault on the angry freezer door thrower. Also, contact the people in upper management about this supervisor's poor management skills. If it is a small company, get out. Go on workmen's compensation for the medical injuries you received from the door hitting you.

The federal government has laws to protect you.

Trish

 

[JustSomeGuy]

I agree that this is more than simply harrasment, this is assault. The managers will go to jail for this. Companies can't get away with that sort of thing. I should have sued my first employeer for something much more minor than what you've gone through. I didn't because I gave them the benefit of the doubt that it was just one person in the company causing the problem. I found out later that all of the management knew about that person and didn't care. That is until he started stealing money from them.

But back to your situation. I would go to the police and charge anyone that laid a hand on you or threw anything at you with assault. Then if their superiors knew of their behaviour before, I would sue the company for creating a hostile work environment and harrasment. I would think that a lawyer would probably even take the case and agree to be paid after since it's almost a sure thing that you would win.

 

[alilsa]

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have raised a fuss. It was my fault, I deserved to get hit. The man was handicapped and was mad because I didn't understand what he said and was ignoring him at times. He can't help it he's slow and don't speak clear, I should have tried harder to understand but I didn't. It was my fault I got hit, I shouldn't have made him mad. I work at a fast food restuarant and some of the employees are considered to be handicapped. Me, I'm just crazy is all. I ended up shutting out others a little too much to get my work done, I should have paid alittle more attention to the others and helped the poor kid. But the whole abuse thing did trigger some memories of abuse from earlier times. I'm sorry, it was my fault I got hit and yelled at, I made others angry. But, I did talk myself into putting the boxcutter down without any serious cuts to my arms, mostly just scratches and burns. We have to get used to cuts, burns, and bruises. I was trying to calm down when I wasn't all there (disscocitive) or something. I couldn't even hear someone 2 feet from me at the time (a little later). It is hard to pray in this kind of state and I tried burning myself to get me down and some mild cutting. But I still asked what to do to take getting hurt at work and how to calm down from whatever I had. Sometimes though when I get too preoccupied with getting my work done, the manager will yell at me and throw stuff at me like timers or a biscuit or ice. Sorry, I'm crazy too.

 

[nate230]

no one deserves to be treated that way and don't ever, EVER let yourself think that you do. you deserve better.

if this ever happened to any of my loved ones i'd be down there ASAP to put him in his place.

 

[churl]

Oh my! Take action now! DON"T let yourself stay in this - the long term effects will be devistating. Call an attorney, the police, your internal HR dept - this is simply not allowed to continue.

 

[pegatha]

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have raised a fuss. It was my fault, I deserved to get hit. The man was handicapped and was mad because I didn't understand what he said and was ignoring him at times. He can't help it he's slow and don't speak clear, I should have tried harder to understand but I didn't. It was my fault I got hit, I shouldn't have made him mad.

No, dear, no matter what you think you did wrong, it is not your fault you got hit. This man has poor judgement and poor coping skills, and it was his choice to hit you. If you don't press charges, you run the risk of two things:

1) He will continue to hit you, because he knows you'll just put up with it.

2) He will eventually injure someone, whether it's you or the next person who ticks him off.

Please--for your own sake--for the sake of the next person he's tempted to lash out at--and for his sake (because he's going to get himself into big trouble, sooner or later, if he's not stopped)--report this to the police and to higher management. And don't hesitate to press charges; you could be saving someone from serious injury later on down the road.

 

[BlackRain]

you don't need to harm yourself to calm down...you don't need to purposefully harm yourself at all, for any matter. really think about it, ok? if this job is causing you to do that, QUIT! anything that is causing that behavior isn't healthy for you to be around. please consider quitting...for your sake...and safety. i'm sure you'll be able to find another job, a job that has a better environment.