My husband and I have been married 15 months. For the last 6 months a friend of his has been living in our home (totally cost free) and causing major division - as well as providing his unwelcome critique on every part of our lives. We run a boarding house, so home is on the work site, and the criticism has gone as far as questioning how often we change our sheets and berating me for not cooking enough pasta to go with the meat and veges.
Some weeks ago I pleaded with my husband to remove this extra person from our home. I feel like our home and marriage are being violated by the presence of this third person who has so much 'advice' garnered from his permanent bachelorhood.
My question is this:
My husband told the friend he needed to leave 'by the end of the month' and gave a reason that I consider to be a lie. Today, with just over a week left until 'the end of the month', the friends tells us he has no intention of going anywhere unless our landlord gives a reason that suits him. Husband gave further reasons that I again believe to be lies. I have remained silent and not undermined his role - but would it be OK for me to speak with the friend and tell him that it is time for him to leave our home simply because we need the privacy back for the sake of our marriage?
Some weeks ago I pleaded with my husband to remove this extra person from our home. I feel like our home and marriage are being violated by the presence of this third person who has so much 'advice' garnered from his permanent bachelorhood.
My question is this:
My husband told the friend he needed to leave 'by the end of the month' and gave a reason that I consider to be a lie. Today, with just over a week left until 'the end of the month', the friends tells us he has no intention of going anywhere unless our landlord gives a reason that suits him. Husband gave further reasons that I again believe to be lies. I have remained silent and not undermined his role - but would it be OK for me to speak with the friend and tell him that it is time for him to leave our home simply because we need the privacy back for the sake of our marriage?