PloverWing
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- May 5, 2012
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I don't really know what to think, they're both very faithful Christians or at least present themselves that way and I want to offer insightful advice, although I'm not sure what my stance on this should be. Should I be trying to preach to them and forbidding it or embracing it or ignoring it or what? I'm so confused, and I'd love some advice.
Going back to the original poster:
Your friend is going to need a good friend most of all. This has to be a terribly difficult time for your friend, sorting out gender identity and sexual orientation, which sometimes isn't an easy thing to figure out. Be there for him, even if all of this is weird. Many transgender people face rejection from family, friends, church, classmates. He'll need someone to stick by him, to let him know he's still loved.
Honor his confidences. He has shown tremendous trust in coming out to you. It sounds like he doesn't feel safe yet confiding in his parents or church, so don't tell anyone else about his transgender status or dating relationship until he gives you permission. When he judges that the time is right, he can come out to them himself. In the meantime, honor his trust.
I wouldn't offer advice unless he asks. If he's in a conservative church, he's probably heard all the Bible verses about sexual relationships. What he might find difficult to remember right now is the Bible verses about how much God loves each of us, how much God loves him.
As a courtesy, use whatever pronoun he prefers, even if it's strange. (He might prefer to stick with "he" for now, though, if he's still closeted. Ask.)
I'm so glad that you're continuing to be his friend. You are an agent of God's love for him right now.
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