I know that some people who have this problem don't find themselves attractive and therefore don't have desire. I know the two seem like they don't go together, but they really do.
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Mismay I agree completely with merryheart. If you can switch your focus to the fullfillment you're providing for him during those intimate times then I think you may find your enjoyment will increase. During those times if you can learn that it's not just about what you can get from it, but from what he's getting and what you can be getting it will be so much more enjoyable.merryheart said:For me, attraction is partly about his desire for me, partly about feeling desirable, partly about expressing love by arousing him, partly about imagination, looking at him and telling myself "I love this man, and I love what he is doing to me", and again - imagination...
Also, is what Glorianna said above a possibility for you? I've been there and found that satan put my own body image problem there as a stumbling block for me. I didn't feel attractive myself and felt awkward at times. Now I'm much more comfortable in my own skin and rarely is that a problem for me. If that's the case for you, you could always try lingerie that you can keep on during (a gown of sorts). It works for me on those days when I'm feeling a little less than sexy and my husband certainly doesn't mindGlorianna said:I know that some people who have this problem don't find themselves attractive and therefore don't have desire. I know the two seem like they don't go together, but they really do.
Conqueror12 said:I have not been attracted to my husband for a long time. In fact, for quite a while I couldn't even be in the same room with him without being physically nauseated. It was awful.
What helped me was superimposing Yahshua over him and doing unto him as I would if I were married to Yahshua. He said that whatever we do unto the least of these we are actually doing unto Him, so it really puts things in perspective.
Katydid said:I actually prayed alot about it and found that the more I was willing to be attracted to him, the more I was attracted to him. NOT the more I wanted to be attracted to him or the more I wished he was the way he used to be.