If you cannot see that John 3:16 is referring to everyone than you misunderstand what the word for world means and overlook the whosoever will part. Now Justice can only be justice if there is a set standard to judge from. A law is not just if there are people that are above the law. Even God put himself under the law. So for a law to be just then it has to apply to everyone. But saying that the law of redemption only applies to some "elect" few is to make the law of redemption unjust. I cannot serve a God that only loves the "elect" few, even if I was one of the few. And my view assumes that man is morally bankrupt and that God's grace is the only way for a person to love God. But my view all sees God as love. And as love, God offers his grace freely to anyone who will trust.
And please if you don't mind, could you tell me how you ended up loving God from a personal view? Your previous answer sounded to generalized, as if someone was reciting a textbook. Please tell me you personal testimony if you don't mind.
I hope you don't mind if I answer the part about John 3:16.
The word world has many different meanings in the Scriptures. In Luke 2:1 it means the Roman world. Not everybody in the world was under Roman rule at the time that Augustus decreed that all the world be taxed is just one example. The fact is that the word world rarely means everybody in the world without exception.
In John 3:16 the word simply means those scattered throughout the world. It does not mean everybody in the world for, as I pointed out earlier, God does very clearly say that there are some people that He hates.
But more than that the context explains what the Lord meant when He spoke those words. He was talking to a high Jew, a Pharisee who thought that God only just loved Jews. They wouldn't even walk on the same side of the street as a Gentile. What they called the Gentiles, as many "Christians" do unbelievers today, the world. Jesus was simply telling this Pharisee that God doesn't just love Jews.
As to the whosoever, we certainly believe in whosoever will let him come and take of the water of life freely. We just don't believe in whosoever will not. Jesus again told some of these Jews that they will not come to Him that they might have life. That is the default position of man. Man will not come and has no desire to come until and unless God, by the Spirit in the power of the preaching of the Gospel, gives him a new will. He doesn't do that for everybody.
Moreover in John 6:44 the Lord said that no man can come unless the Father draws him. In verse 45 He says that they shall all be taught of God. Not all men are taught of God and will not come.
Again in John 10:11 the Lord says that He is the Good Shepherd who give His life for the sheep. But only a few verses later, verse 26, he tells some folks that that they do not believe because they are not of His sheep.
I want you to look up these passages and prayerfully consider them.
The fact is that all who desire to be saved are saved. Any who came to Christ seeking mercy found it. But why did they come? They came because, like that leper in Matt. 8:2-3; Mark. 1:40 and Luke 5:12, they had a great need and they knew it. They had no hope in themselves and they believed that the Master could do what he said He could.
Unbelievers have no need of Christ as far as they know in themselves. It is only after they have been made to know their need do they willingly come to Christ. They do it because they have been born of God not to be born of God. 1John 5:1.