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Christownsme
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My girlfriend and I planned on getting married after about 2 years of dating, and it's taking awhile because we had agreed I pay off my debts before actually going thru it. We want to be debt free.
Ever since we've been dating we've been arguing out premarital sex. I try drawing boundaries but when I do, she claims I want to leave her. Her feelings are hurt as a result.
I just want to be moral about things, avoid guilty consciences and such. I had to leave my first girlfriend because she was taking advantage of me sexually. Then I became addicted to sex thru pornography. I'm learning how to live without all that stuff, and my counselor says I shouldn't be having premarital sex, it will bring back memories of the addiction. Once I'm married it would be ok.
I feel like my girlfriend is pressuring me into having sex, and now that I've drawn my boundaries she is using guilt to get to me.
What should I do? We really love each other and had such a good time with each other until this all happened.
Ever since we've been dating we've been arguing out premarital sex. I try drawing boundaries but when I do, she claims I want to leave her. Her feelings are hurt as a result.
I just want to be moral about things, avoid guilty consciences and such. I had to leave my first girlfriend because she was taking advantage of me sexually. Then I became addicted to sex thru pornography. I'm learning how to live without all that stuff, and my counselor says I shouldn't be having premarital sex, it will bring back memories of the addiction. Once I'm married it would be ok.
I feel like my girlfriend is pressuring me into having sex, and now that I've drawn my boundaries she is using guilt to get to me.
What should I do? We really love each other and had such a good time with each other until this all happened.