Are you inferring some of us have an irrational stance because of experience? All4Christ posed some excellent questions. Are you willing to make an attempt to answer? What experience does is it puts to the test our beliefs (when the "rubber hits the road" so to speak). For instance: I *used to* believe that everyone just wanted love and understanding. Now I know that's a false belief. That doesn't mean I have a clouded view (I don't see ALL situations as "abusive")---that just means I have an educated view. Seeing life through a lens of denial does no one any good either. Truth and a clear view is what's helpful (not skewed into false perceptions in either direction).It's so tempting to filter and advice based on our own personal experiences or a close friends experience that we are observing (and getting our hearts torn out along with them).
That could be (that the spouse found out and took away the access). It could also be that the "advice" given wasn't helpful (and they realized that) and looked elsewhere. I hope the OP is safe.What disturbs me, and I find I don't really know what to make of this, is how many people will post a problem on here, asking for advice, but then never show up again. I see it quite often. Not only do they not post again, they don't even bother to sign in again. I don't understand this. This poster hasn't shown up since the day after she posted, Oct 17. Maybe their spouses are so controlling that they do not have access to their computers anymore? I know that happens.
What specifically are you referring to when you mention this? What did "Christ say to do" and where (and in what context)?how we did what Christ says to do
I'm not mad at the Lord because He isn't responsible for the abusive ways of people (one reason why I speak out against "God gives us" ). "His ways" are love.....to be the voices for the voiceless....and to do justice. Those that turn the other way (or cross the street) when a person is bleeding out (like in the parable of the Good Samaritan) are the ones that are "rejecting His ways".I'm guessing some of us are secretly mad at the Lord and His church, and therefore are rejecting His ways.