The first year of my marriage was a little rocky, because I am rather bull headed on certain things that used to drive my wife nuts. For example: I cannot stand dirty dishes in my kitchen. Yep how silly is that. But Christina had a habit of pouring a glass of tea and letting it sit out on the counter. I would immediately swoop in, grab a clorox clean up, wipe down the counter, and pour out the glass putting it in the dishwasher. For me, at the time, it was a personal vendetta, and a fight I was willing to have. It drove me nuts. She hated, hated, HATED, that I would dare throw out her tea. An let me tell you, she let me know. Also, I am going to do what I say I am, and/or what I think needs to be done even at a personal loss. When my mind is made up.... hell hath no fury..... Well, it turns out treating your wife like an employee that has slacked on the job doesn't work out to well. So yeah, there's that. To me, if something needed to be done you do it, now, not latter. If the lawn needs to be mowed, turn off the TV and go mow it. No milk in the fridge, grab the keys, and go get some, ect.... My wife is way more laid back then me, and would be perfectly fine with doing it latter. I viewed this as lazy excuses. And I would tell her so. We loved each other, and wanted to be with each other, but we didn't realy mesh. Both of us are strong willed people. I'm laughing now typing this, but one day before heading out to work; Chris took all 16 of our drinking glasses and set them all over the house. In the bathroom, the kitchen, the living room, and all over the place. All of them were about 1/4 full of tea. This was our first real argument, and when we came together as a couple. Ohh I was angry, buy the complete absurdity of it was not wasted on me. I thought to myself : "This.... this is what I'm worried about? Glasses of tea?" I immediately went to Walmart, bought a real cute card, and taped it to the bathroom mirror. I told her I loved her, told her that was the funniest thing I have ever seen, signed it, and wrote "P.S. Clean up your mess!" And that was the argument.
Chris still leaves tea on the counter, but now I walk it over to where she is sitting and put it on the nightstand or what have you. I'm still bull headed, and sometime she has to reign me in a bit. But we both have come to understand, it simply doesn't matter. We are both going to do things wrong. Also, marriage isn't realy about what you get out of it. It is about loving and serving your spouse. That being said, we have never had a blowout fight. We talk. Sometimes for hours. Sometimes about absolutely nothing. We just hangout and talk. And we straight up confront one another. And we work it out right there. I have found more joy in making my Baby Girl smile, than constantly having to be right all the time. Make your spouse feel loved, safe & content. That helps allot.
Well even though my wife would do her quiet thing and I wanted to know what was wrong, y default shes the sociable talkative one. Me? I'm shy, laid back...etc. I'm the guy who sits in a full room of people in a corner by myself learning from what others are doing. Whos saying what to someone else. Gestures that are made. Who talks to who, who avoids who. I look at clothes and actions and so on to figure everyone out. Then I approach the person that seems like they are friendly. Though being married I've gotten used to going to events and talking to people more. Though I am still relativity quiet. I'm better at one on one. Maybe on on two at most. 
