I ain't a big fan of it...
Makes things too "easy in and Easy Out".
Especially if you have been divorced before...It gets harder to stay committed when you have a divorce in your past...and many living together arrangements?....well...it is just like many divorces...except with out all of the court fees and lawyer fees.
And...considering I have a son I want to raise in the grace, wisdom, and knowledge of God....I simply can't. I have two failed marriages now...one to his mother and one to another woman. I so wish that I could show him how to do it instead of how not to have a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. But...I have failed miserably in that.
A string of "live in" girlfriends speaks volumes to the outside world too that I don't believe in Godly principles...so...I can't do that either...
My identity is with Christ...sure I have made mistakes as all people do. But a lifestyle that speaks to not having a relationship with Christ....I simply can't do it. I don't have it within me.
This pretty much sums up my feelings on the matterI'm not sure how I feel about it, to be honest.
For it.Why or why not?
For or against?
I thought it wasn't allowed? It's sin? Transgression?
I could be wrong....usually am. I grew up in a different culture. I met my first wife for 20 minutes at 16 then again at the alter at 19. Soooooo I guess my oppinion doesn't count.
God be with you.
No cohabing!
From my vague and sleep deprived recollection if you live as man and wife it is a sin. I don't consider seperate rooms living as man and wife, but then again I think i'm viewing cohabiting as living in the same house as opposed to the definitions i've just googled. A lot of them seem to imply cohabitation involves premarital sex, I just assumed it also covered living with someone you're emotionally tied to as opposed to simply sharing a house with roommates. Because i'm not wired 'that way' I fail to understand how anyone who could control themselves outside of cohabiting will suddenly drop all their ideals and suddenly be this lustful beast who cares little for the word of God.
I guess I just fail to understand how living in the same house suddenly compels individuals who say they have a relationship with the Lord to act like dogs in heat. Is it really that hard to abstain for some people?
Why or why not?
For or against?
There is no playing "footsie" with sin when your identity is with Christ.
Living together is worldly...making firm commitments is more what a Christian is about. Especially when it comes to relationships.
sure, people sin and do all kinds of horrible things. Men being mean and uncaring...and women doing the same. But God is good...living together just speaks to being "of the world" and not of Christ.
It is a lousy witness IMHO.
And for someone like myself that believes in saving sex for marriage, it just seems to be putting yourself in a very difficult place. I would be fighting myself all the time. I think I would go CRAZY.
I would totally try and have sex with her. Which isn't what I want to do. So for me it would be a terrible idea.
For me sex is a big temptation, and I find the problem with temptation is that it is very tempting, id give myself a week max til i have done something regretable.
Do you consider divorce less "worldly" and less of a "lousy witness" than living together before vows are taken? Because I don't, not by a long shot.
I'm not straight advocating cohabitation before marriage - yes - if you are doing it and having sex you are sinning (unless you are already committed and engaged...I see this a bit different) - but nevertheless it does provide benefits. You get to know first hand whether or not you want to spend your life with this person.
I did it, and am not sorry I did. I have friends who have done it, some are happily married now to that person, some are not.
The simple fact of the matter is that you get to know someone alot better when you are living with them. Sure, the alternative to that is to not do that and ask lots of questions - but you may get half truths and less than full disclosure. There is "less hiding" when you are living with someone and are making joint decisions with them, seeing their habits etc.
If it includes sex it's sin (and I'd say it usually does), and no you don't get to *shine* like a good Christian should for witness purposes, but you also are less likely to step into a serious commitment and find out all kinds of negatives and incompatibilities your partner may have been able to successfully hide from you during courting.
There is risk involved, of course, as I've already stated previously.