white dove
(she's a) maniac
Why or why not?
For or against?
I'm against it for myself and I refuse to cohabitate before marriage. Any subsequent relationship(s) I may get into, I don't foresee a sexual relationship immediately. Although I am not a virgin, I am old-fashioned in some ways and I'm of the "been there, done that" crowd... so I'm a bit "over" the whole gotta-have-sex-or-I'll-die thing. I intend to live right by myself and listen more to when God's guiding my heart and cranium.
As a Christian, I'm supposed to avoid the "appearances of evil," but moreso than that not make people guess about my lifestyle and values. If I'm living with someone, but maintaining that there is no sexual relationship present, I'm only making myself look like a moron. True, it doesn't really matter what people think in a sense, but at the same time, we're living examples. And it doesn't really make sense to live with someone I'm dating (ala a marriage relationship) without treating it like it is. Does that make sense?
I also don't buy all the mumbo-jumbo about not really knowing what someone is like unless you live with them. That's bullplop. Initially, when you're dating someone you go places, you're not stuck at one or the other's apartment, condo or home. When you settle into it, you do have those moments of hanging out at home - for movie nights, game nights or whatever because let's face it, it's expensive to go out all the time. And perhaps the majority of your time will be spent at one or the other's home. You can tell what someone is like during those times, how they maintain their home, etc.. It isn't rocket science.
Also for me, I know how I operate. Bad enough I'm a naturally playful person. If I lived with a man I'm dating or engaged to, I know the temptation is there. I wouldn't want to make it even more convenient for us to go against our convictions (ideally, this would be someone who doesn't require a sexual relationship prior to marriage, but would have a compatible enough sex drive).
Sexual experience, abilities, etc.. again, all those fears are all bullplop. What needs to be discussed prior to marriage to ensure that a sexual compatibility exists will hint at the right match-up or the wrong one. Love, open honesty and communication are the abilities one needs to master in order to ensure a healthy and amazing sex life with one's spouse. Good lovers are not just born that way. So, when I hear people being afraid that they won't satisfy their husband or wife, I feel saddened because people truly believe that the more experience = better sex. So wrong. The only reason I add this is because it's on-par with people saying one must "try the horse before they put on the bit." Or whatever.
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