So a fellow brother-in-Christ has been struggling with money lately, and I mentioned that any time he needs me, I'd more than happy to help him out. He finally emailed me this morning with a request to help him out with a few thousand dollars. It broke his heart to have to ask for it, and he layed out a very detailed plan on how he plans on paying me back as soon as possible. I haven't responded to his email yet.
I make a comfortable living, and a few thousand dollars is absolutely no problem for me to help him out with. My question is, how should I approach the situation with him in a Christian/Biblical way? I think I remember reading that God asks us not to charge interest in loans, or maybe to not require a fellow brother/sister to pay back the loan at all. I'd be perfectly fine just giving the money to him with no requirement to pay me back, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be comfortable with that. Is there maybe some kind of compromise I can come up with, like maybe he can pay me back half the loan, then pay back the other half in some non-monetary way?
This friend and I are pretty close, and he's helped me grow in my faith quite significantly over the past year or so, so I really want to help him as much as I can.
Any advice is appreciated!
As someone who has recently been on both sides of the coin with this, I would like to offer some insight.
Firstly, I hate to say this, but dont just plug a hole and hope the situation gets better. I've seen this before with someone who took advantage of me. I lent this guy about £1200 (about $1700) which is about 1/5 of my annual income (and came from a big chunk of my savings). This was for general cost of life stuff like rent, bills, etc. Within 3 months the money was gone and he wanted more, I had no more to give and was struggling myself, and I ended up getting harassed by this guy.
So I want to ask you, why is this person in this situation? I don't want an answer, but I do want you to ask "why is he needing this money?" If its a one off thing, like medical bills (I think you guys pay medical bills in the USA don't you?) or some such, fair enough, but if its because he just generally sucks at managing money and he's wasting it on stupid stuff or wants a big screen TV, then is it loving to enable that behaviour? I would suggest you pray into that and ask God to speak to you about it, seek the advice of a church leader who may have some greater insight into the situation and take advice before acting. It may be that God calls you to bless this guy, and if thats the case, I'd say crack on and do it, but it may be the case that you're funnelling money into something which could be unhelpful.
The second thing you must be careful of is breeding dependency on you to "fix his life". You want to be careful of not becoming a default response when the proverbial hits the fan, if that makes sense? Let me share another story. Back when I wasn't a Christian I got a homeless guy housed, which cost a bit, then ended up taking him food, paying bills and basically this guy ended up becoming dependent on me and basically ended up stalking me. I admit, I didn't handle it particularly well or wisely. But part of me would want to say to you, make sure that if this does happen and you do help, don't let it become a routine.
Thirdly: I'd be wary of any plans drawn up for repayment. Many plans like that are based on pie in the sky. Get this guy in touch with a debt managment group like "Christians Against Poverty" (Google it, my friend works for them in Bradford, England) or somesuch. But do be prepared to write this money off as things change, life happens and it's gfoing to mess with this guy if your expecting him to stick to a repayment plan that is unrealistic or so overwraught that one knock brings the whole thing crashing down. Better for you to say "pay me back if and when you can" and leave it at that.
Biblically, I would point you to Luke 6:34-35
34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them,and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
If your going to lend it, after proper care and consideration, be prepared to loose it, don't charge interest and don't worry about it. But, I would strongly urge you to pray into this first, seek the wisdom of church elders who know both of you and the wider situation and determine if it is both God's will and appropriate to lend the money.