Can I marry my cousin?

[Jesus_is_Saint]

The daughter of my mother's sister, can I marry her?
Anything immoral with that if both of us fall in love?

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

If you fall in love has nothing to do with it.

Either it is forbidden, or it's not.

 

[ewq1938]

I can't think of anything forbidding it in the bible but the bible says to obey the laws of the land so you need to check if it is illegal where you live.

Also, your profile says you are already married...

 

[Jeshu]

The daughter of my mother's sister, can I marry her?
Anything immoral with that if both of us fall in love?

It all depends brother. Is it faithful love speaking or demanding, lustful, good life burning 'love' there is a lot of confusion about the word love down here, but you know in your heart where you are at.

Faithful love would say?
unfaithful love would say?

there you go bro!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 

[pakicetus]

Love is such a rare and wonderful thing, you should take it wherever you can find it. Of course you should marry your cousin if that's what you want to do.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

There is nothing immoral in a marriage of a man and a woman when YHWH approves of the marriage.
It doesn't matter if they love each other or not. That is to be or can be learned.
The marriage is either moral, if YHWH approves of it, or potentially immoral, if YHWH doesn't approve of it.

 

[Audacious]

I don't see why you shouldn't marry your cousin.

If you want to have kids, the chances of there being any serious problems from it are extremely low -- the rate of genetic defects are literally 2% more likely than a child from a marriage where the parents aren't related.

Remember that getting married and having kids are separate points, and you can always adopt if you're really concerned about genetic implications.

 

[Darkhorse]

According to Leviticus 18, cousin marriages are allowed, provided that the couple is not otherwise forbidden.

About half of the U. S. states allow first-cousin marriages (and obviously, the other half don't).

 

[Radrook]

It is biblically allowed. However, the closer the family relation the greater danger of passing on a family related hereditary negative characteristic or a positive characteristic. It works both ways. For example, if both parents are from a family which has a predisposition to have mental issues then that will be more likely than if they were unrelated. If both come from family which is predisposed to produce mathematical or musical genius then that likelihood is increased. The same applies to physical characteristics and diseases. I think that family members who know that there is a certain negative predisposition should avoid marriage with each other if they intend to have kids.

 

[timewerx]

Make sure you think it through very carefully first. It's so easy to fall in love with a cousin due to a number of factors but will it turn out for the best of both of you in the end? No one can tell. Feelings don't paint an accurate picture.

 

[Radrook]

Make sure you think it through very carefully first. It's so easy to fall in love with a cousin due to a number of factors but will it turn out for the best of both of you in the end? No one can tell. Feelings don't paint an accurate picture.

I am the product of 2nd cousin marriage and their relationship was one incessant heated argument for twenty years. They both had extremely similar nervous system problems and psychological issues which they passed on to me. So IMHO they should have avoided each other. On the other hand, they found out they were cousins AFTER they had already fallen in love. So that complicated things.

 

[Grafted In]

Abraham married his half sister.
However, an exception would be what ewq1938 eluded to...If it is illegal where you live it would be sin to marry, in my opinion.

 

[Radrook]

Abraham married his half sister.
However, an exception would be what ewq1938 eluded to...If it is illegal where you live it would be sin to marry, in my opinion.

According to what I was taught, those people back then were closer to Adamic perfection than we are and the risk of genetic anomalies were far less. Also, if God was directly involved then he would prevent any genetic problems.

 

[CodyFaith]

There is nothing immoral in a marriage of a man and a woman when YHWH approves of the marriage.
It doesn't matter if they love each other or not. That is to be or can be learned.
The marriage is either moral, if YHWH approves of it, or potentially immoral, if YHWH doesn't approve of it.

It can't be immoral if there's love (true love).

Just sayin'. Love is one of the main ways of being able to tell and know God's will. Love is often a guide.

Not saying this applies to OP, just felt like commenting on your comment since you posted it twice.

 

[chandraclaws]

I would do some serious research.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

It can't be immoral if there's love (true love).

Just sayin'. Love is one of the main ways of being able to tell and know God's will. Love is often a guide.

Not saying this applies to OP, just felt like commenting on your comment since you posted it twice.

If it is YHWH'S LOVE, correct. YHWH'S LOVE never causes or creates or commits anything sinful.

But if it is eros/ emotional/ re if it's 'sinful' [feelings|lust|carnal|of the flesh] love, that's another story.

If it happens to be illegal, then it is likely also immoral,
regardless of feelings of love.

Husbands are told by YHWH to love their wives as Christ loved the ecclesia - born again believers set apart to HIM.

This is true even if they don't love them before they get married.

 

[Radrook]

If it is YHWH'S LOVE, correct. YHWH'S LOVE never causes or creates or commits anything sinful.

But if it is eros/ emotional/ re if it's 'sinful' [feelings|lust|carnal|of the flesh] love, that's another story.

If it happens to be illegal, then it is likely also immoral,
regardless of feelings of love.

Husbands are told by YHWH to love their wives as Christ loved the ecclesia - born again believers set apart to HIM.

This is true even if they don't love them before they get married.

There were hundreds of things pronounced illegal under Communist Russia, Nazi Germany and Fascist Italy.
Many of them involved depriving other people of their human rights.

 

[CodyFaith]

If it is YHWH'S LOVE, correct. YHWH'S LOVE never causes or creates or commits anything sinful.

But if it is eros/ emotional/ re if it's 'sinful' [feelings|lust|carnal|of the flesh] love, that's another story.

If it happens to be illegal, then it is likely also immoral,
regardless of feelings of love.

Husbands are told by YHWH to love their wives as Christ loved the ecclesia - born again believers set apart to HIM.

This is true even if they don't love them before they get married.

You make it sound like one's conscience can't be a guide between choosing right or wrong.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

You make it sound like one's conscience can't be a guide between choosing right or wrong.

Conscience and 'love' and emotion might not have any connection in obedience to YHWH abiding in Y'SHUA.
NEVER follow emotion. NEVER, no, not ever.
(I believe that is a safe reminder, rule and necessity to avoid being deceived; verified throughout GOD'S WORD)

Conscience , though, ? Yes >>
Even the gentiles who are without TORAH may do what is right by their conscience as NOTED IN ROMANS.
While even the Jews with TORAH may do what is wrong (I forget what exactly is written in ROMANS).

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

There were hundreds of things pronounced illegal under Communist Russia, Nazi Germany and Fascist Italy.
Many of them involved depriving other people of their human rights.

Whenever a man is called by Y'SHUA to follow HIM,
he is called to die.
All of his so-called 'rights' go to the cross whenever he is immersed in Y'SHUA'S NAME.
When someone is PURCHASED by the BLOOD OF CHRIST THE LAMB WHO WAS SLAIN,
we belong totally to HIM; we are HIS - every bit - every part - every thought - every dream - and our hands, feet , eyes, brain and body - all are HIS. Our past, present and future is HIS - we are no longer our own.