My husband and I were privately doing our homework assigned to us during our group couples Bible study at church. This was our activity:
I have to say that I REALLY struggled with this. We do not have children and we BOTH work full time. We both come home exhausted (like everyone).
Now I understand that a marriage is not a 50-50 partnership. Meaning: It would be extremely unwise to tally what each of us does for the home and make sure that we both come out even at the end of the day regarding chores and whatnot. That's ridiculous.
But I've honestly been wanting him to help out more around the house. We don't have to share things 50-50, but I've REALLY been desiring that he help me more instead of it being so one-sided since we married a year and a half ago. NO, I am not saying that he does nothing or never helps out. He does help me - but only sometimes. I'm really tired after work (like I know everyone is) and I would LOOOOOOVE it if he stepped up a little more. But he expressed to me that he wants me to be the one to take on the household duties more exclusively.
That makes me incredibly sad. I know most people don't enjoy chores and stuff, but whenever we come together and do them it is SOOO much easier and faster. The burden is so much lighter. I really love it when he helps me. He doesn't have to WANT to want to clean - I just don't want to be in charge of the house exclusively like he requested of me.
So I suppose I would like to know if his request is... if I'm wrong and being selfish or if something else is wrong. I just feel so greived.
Oh yes, I did tell him right away that I LOVE it when instead he helps me out with the chores. I told him how much I appreciate that. He never responded to that. The subject was dropped.
Side note: my answer to the homework problem was this: "I feel very loved when you compliment me and affirm me with your words. I love it when you say nice things and tell me how much you appreciate what I've done or how well I'm doing something, etc."
- My husband was supposed to tell me what *I* could do that would make *him* feel more loved in our relationship.
- And I was to take a turn telling my husband what *he* could do that would make *me* feel loved.
I have to say that I REALLY struggled with this. We do not have children and we BOTH work full time. We both come home exhausted (like everyone).
Now I understand that a marriage is not a 50-50 partnership. Meaning: It would be extremely unwise to tally what each of us does for the home and make sure that we both come out even at the end of the day regarding chores and whatnot. That's ridiculous.
But I've honestly been wanting him to help out more around the house. We don't have to share things 50-50, but I've REALLY been desiring that he help me more instead of it being so one-sided since we married a year and a half ago. NO, I am not saying that he does nothing or never helps out. He does help me - but only sometimes. I'm really tired after work (like I know everyone is) and I would LOOOOOOVE it if he stepped up a little more. But he expressed to me that he wants me to be the one to take on the household duties more exclusively.
That makes me incredibly sad. I know most people don't enjoy chores and stuff, but whenever we come together and do them it is SOOO much easier and faster. The burden is so much lighter. I really love it when he helps me. He doesn't have to WANT to want to clean - I just don't want to be in charge of the house exclusively like he requested of me.
So I suppose I would like to know if his request is... if I'm wrong and being selfish or if something else is wrong. I just feel so greived.
Oh yes, I did tell him right away that I LOVE it when instead he helps me out with the chores. I told him how much I appreciate that. He never responded to that. The subject was dropped.
Side note: my answer to the homework problem was this: "I feel very loved when you compliment me and affirm me with your words. I love it when you say nice things and tell me how much you appreciate what I've done or how well I'm doing something, etc."
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