I am surprised that you do not know that...
Jesus requires us to forgive 77 x 7 times (something like that) and to love our enemies. And in Proverbs it says that we are to bypass an offense...
God bless you.
My question is somewhat rhetorical. I'm dealing with a difficult family situation in which one is condemning another for really a non-personal offense. The judgemental one is a "Christian" from a non-denom. fundamentalist type church and she is backing up her actions with scripture and I believe the blessings of her pastor.
Veritas said:
I just didn't know the circumstance... 
Secondly, wow.... You know, 23 years ago or less, I was that Christian that you're talking about.... The Lord broke me in a million pieces so as to bring me to my knees in repentance for being sooo judgemental. Yes, this kind of judgemental attitude hardly is Christian.... I'm so sorry you're going through that. This is certainly no witness for the faith on this person's part...
Well, it's not that I don't know!
i sometimes get so angry with things that people do to me or say to me, or online some of the things people write in response to me. that made me feel better, i love that prayer... just think about the title 'our father' what a wonderful thing don't you think?
How sad this person's comments... may the Lord teach him/her... sometimes we need to be broken by the Lord. Beauty comes from suffering.
hola Veritas!
i know you from the forum, you are a good person. i think you should let go
simple example: recently i was discussing something with somebody from the forum, i start almost all of my posts with 'hola' and end them with 'que Dios te bendiga' which means 'may God bless you' in my father's language... it's just something person that i do. this person told me he did not want my blessings, basically because they were in spanish and he didn't want me to say anything in spanish in his presence...
that really offended me because i do not say these things out of formality i really truly mean 'hi!' and i really truly mean 'may God bless you' and to have that pushed back into me as not worth their attention was hurtful.
at first i tried to understand, when that didn't work i got angry and said some sarcastic things... but that didn't reach this person and only provoked him further. so finally i just decided that this was in God's hands... i know who i am and i have a jury of one looking over me... and this person is not on the jury. i only had to forgive (genuinely), love and find something more constructive with my time. so i shrugged it off, went away from my computer and prayed the our father for a half hour
anyway.. just let go, it's never important enough to forget that God is trying to get your attention because he wants something... forgive, let go, pray and just let go... then forgiveness is easy... you might even feel like there is nothing to forgive... that's how i felt at the end of everything with that scenario above
que Dios te bendiga
Interestingly, none of my other siblings feels as she does. She just can't get past the sin and love the sinner.
I thought it was me you were contemplating forgiving. So that's why I said it.Ok, my buck is up. What is a buck anyway? Oh yeah, that dollar thing......
FWIW, my mom has apologized and expressed her sorrow. Why is that not good enough? Because my dad's upset? He's just as much at fault as my mom. There are no innocent parties here. Has my dad apologized? No, yet they side with him.
And don't be holdin' your breath for that repentance either, cause it's a long time coming. I was just posting out of concern for your soul, but it seems you've thrown that to the wind so alls I can do is shake the dust from my sandals at this point. Jason ain't God you know, though I realize he does think that he is.
It's quite a high pedestal that we put our parents on for the most part...even, maybe especially, when we are grown. To find out that they have faults and failings like normal humans is hard to acknowledge for alot of people. Particularly if they always had a Norman Rockwellish pisture of their parents relationship...whether it was true or not. 
