Are passive men sexy?

[er72]

I would like to know what everyone thinks about passive men.

 

[Rose of Eden]

Can you clarify exactly what you mean by "passive men"? I just want to make sure that we're on the same page with that idea before I say something that may be taken wrong lol!

 

[K9_Trainer]

Not sure what you mean by passive. If you mean unwilling or unable to speak up and say what they want and stand up for themselves? Then no. Its not sexy in men or women, its annoying because its an indication of communication problems.

 

[Verve]

Not sure what you mean by passive. If you mean unwilling or unable to speak up and say what they want and stand up for themselves? Then no. Its not sexy in men or women, its annoying because its an indication of communication problems.

 

[MacFall]

I don't think any men are sexy.

But seriously - what do you mean by "passive"? If you mean non-assertive, then I would think not, unless the women are domineering bullies who are looking for doormats.

 

[HazelWings]

Not sure what you mean by passive. If you mean unwilling or unable to speak up and say what they want and stand up for themselves? Then no. Its not sexy in men or women, its annoying because its an indication of communication problems.

 

[JoeyArnold]

Anger-passive.

 

[Thunder Peel]

So you're saying that tickling people with my fairy wand and crying whenever I run out of ketchup isn't sexy?

 

[MacFall]

That's... sort of assertive.

 

[HazelWings]

So you're saying that tickling people with my fairy wand and crying whenever I run out of ketchup isn't sexy?

I totally just spit at my computer That's studly stuff, right there

 

[K9_Trainer]

So you're saying that tickling people with my fairy wand and crying whenever I run out of ketchup isn't sexy?

I suppose pitching a fit when you run out of ketchup can be classified as asserting yourself Can't say about the fairy wand though....

 

[explodingboy]

Well I obviously can't speak for all, but my ex ran off with a dominatrix and apparently was unhappy due to me never arguing or bossing her around.

 

[white dove]

Passivity = doormat, in my opinion. So no, that's not sexy nor attractive on any level. Peacemakers are sexy. Men who are easygoing, but not to the point of not having a backbone nor ambition or interests. Men who lack those are not worth my time. Men who can have their own opinion, speak it and speak it firmly, but admit to perhaps being wrong or having something to learn every once in awhile... those are sexy (and correct).

 

[Blank123]

depends on what you mean.

passive = doormat... no. not sexy at all.

passive = easy going and knows how to pick his battles. yes thats sexy.

I don't want to generalize because hey, everyone has their own tastes in the opposite sex. but. as a rule. most women do not want to be with a man who can never stand up for himself, and most women do not want to be with a man who does nothing but try to control or argue so things go his way. There needs to be a balance.

I'm sure the same is true for guys when choosing whether or not to date a certain woman.

 

[Perhaps Today]

I don't think any men are sexy.

^^This

 

[Perhaps Today]

So you're saying that tickling people with my fairy wand and crying whenever I run out of ketchup isn't sexy?

Epic Win

 

[MehGuy]

Well I obviously can't speak for all, but my ex ran off with a dominatrix and apparently was unhappy due to me never arguing or bossing her around.

Well if you don't feel a need you don't fill a need lol.

Anyways... to answer the question nope... doubt too many girls will like one either...

 

[Inkachu]

The OP still hasn't expounded on what defines "passive" so I'm gonna go with good ol' Dictionary.com lol.

There are 3 main definitions given:

1. not reacting visibly to something that might be expected to produce manifestations of an emotion or feeling - meh...this could mean that he's not easily swayed by corny cheeseball things, or it could mean that he's got a heart like a dried up prune... the former is good, the latter is bad.
2. not participating readily or actively; inactive: a passive member of a committee - generally a bad thing, this sounds like a couch potato, apathetic, let-life-happen-instead-of-making-life-happen kinda guy.
3. not involving visible reaction or active participation: to play a passive role - would depend on the situation, but if his general life attitude was just "sit back and stare at the wall" then no, not an attractive thing.

 

[Miles]

Passivity is in the eye of the beholder. A lot depends on where one's interests lie. That said, it's generally used as a pejorative. As such, I'm inclined to say that passivity is not a sexy trait.

 

[GQ Chris]

Wallflowers.