This is a personal - and serious - topic for me, so here goes. I'm well aware of Matt. 5:28, which says that if you look at a woman to lust for her, then you have already sinned (i.e. committed adultery) with her in your heart. Now, at first glance, we could say this only applies to one or more parties being married, which is one possible explanation. However, it is not the norm.
Normally, people infer this refers to lusting (or desiring, since they mean essentially the same thing) after simply someone of the opposite sex, period. But the problem with this view is that it is bondage, it is torment. It is basically saying, "It's a sin to be attracted to someone" or maybe better said, "It's a sin to lust after or desire to be with someone." That's kind of a problem for me, as a human, and as a male.
You see, I'm a normal, heterosexual male with a perfectly normal, healthy and strong libido. Yet, according to this verse, which is evidently what Jesus said here, I'm sinning simply because I am attracted to - and / or desire to be with - someone of the opposite gender. Some may say, "Well, we all sin, and it's good because it points you to Jesus", but the problem with that view is, what do you do once you accept Christ and follow the path Jesus laid out? You're still gonna sin! It is inescapable. No human - rather, no healthy, red-blooded, normal heterosexual male who is single and actually 'desires' (oops, there's that WORD again) to be in a relationship with an attractive female - could possibly follow and obey this teaching! It is simply not possible.
I am actually starting to rethink my entire 'Christian walk' over this verse. I cannot see how, short of physical and bodily mutilation, I could possibly adhere to this verse. And I don't know of any other males who are capable either.
It's one thing to say don't commit adultery, it's another to say don't desire females, period. One is attainable, the other... is a bar that is set too high. Why God demands perfection of imperfect people is something I do not get.
Note: The Greek word for lust in Matt 5:28 is 'Epithumeo' which simply means to long for or desire something. It does not necessarily imply a "bad" longing in itself, hence one cannot separate "lust" from "sexual desire" - they mean the same thing, in this verse! Jesus Himself used this word (according to Luke anyway) in Luke 22:15, when referring to His desire to eat the passover meal with his friends.
So much for all lust being bad, huh? (Except for in this specific case, since desire itself for a woman IS considered sin.)
Since this is an advice forum, I would like to know how I am supposed to overcome this natural, biological desire / lust, if it is even possible? And if it is not, then should I leave Christianity behind once and for all, since I cannot possibly obey it? Basically, what am I supposed to do?
Normally, people infer this refers to lusting (or desiring, since they mean essentially the same thing) after simply someone of the opposite sex, period. But the problem with this view is that it is bondage, it is torment. It is basically saying, "It's a sin to be attracted to someone" or maybe better said, "It's a sin to lust after or desire to be with someone." That's kind of a problem for me, as a human, and as a male.
You see, I'm a normal, heterosexual male with a perfectly normal, healthy and strong libido. Yet, according to this verse, which is evidently what Jesus said here, I'm sinning simply because I am attracted to - and / or desire to be with - someone of the opposite gender. Some may say, "Well, we all sin, and it's good because it points you to Jesus", but the problem with that view is, what do you do once you accept Christ and follow the path Jesus laid out? You're still gonna sin! It is inescapable. No human - rather, no healthy, red-blooded, normal heterosexual male who is single and actually 'desires' (oops, there's that WORD again) to be in a relationship with an attractive female - could possibly follow and obey this teaching! It is simply not possible.
I am actually starting to rethink my entire 'Christian walk' over this verse. I cannot see how, short of physical and bodily mutilation, I could possibly adhere to this verse. And I don't know of any other males who are capable either.
It's one thing to say don't commit adultery, it's another to say don't desire females, period. One is attainable, the other... is a bar that is set too high. Why God demands perfection of imperfect people is something I do not get.
Note: The Greek word for lust in Matt 5:28 is 'Epithumeo' which simply means to long for or desire something. It does not necessarily imply a "bad" longing in itself, hence one cannot separate "lust" from "sexual desire" - they mean the same thing, in this verse! Jesus Himself used this word (according to Luke anyway) in Luke 22:15, when referring to His desire to eat the passover meal with his friends.
So much for all lust being bad, huh? (Except for in this specific case, since desire itself for a woman IS considered sin.)
Since this is an advice forum, I would like to know how I am supposed to overcome this natural, biological desire / lust, if it is even possible? And if it is not, then should I leave Christianity behind once and for all, since I cannot possibly obey it? Basically, what am I supposed to do?
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