Desiring a relationship isn't wrong. Also without being attracted to the opposite sex there would be no procreation and mankind would have died out long time ago. What's considered a sin is entertaining fantasies for example if you are attracted to a woman and then think about having sex with her. Such thoughts should be tried to be suppressed which is most likely also not that easy. I know someone who's married and he also struggled a lot with lust and I think he still does as far as I know. I guess if you have a strong libido you have it harder than others who have a weak libido.
My personal opinion is that if I had to choose between masturbating and trying to live abstinent and then being even more tempted to look after women or watch porn I'd rather touch and try not to think of any women which is also not that easy but it's possible at least for some. But there are also christians who say you also mustn't touch which then again increases the chance of totally messing it up and then ending up watching porn & masturbating on top of it.
Don't do that. That would be throwing the baby out with the bathwater. We all struggle with sins and some struggle more in some areas than others. That doesn't mean you have to give up being a christian. And you also seem to have a false understanding of what is sin. Being attracted is not a sin. I'm sure all men struggle with sexual thoughts so if you couldn't be a christian if you struggle with sexual thoughts then there wouldn't be many christians. Also be careful who you go to for advice because wrong advice could make you feel even more helpless.
Yeah but what's wrong with desiring to be with someone you're going to marry? I don't get that. From a natural perspective, it doesn't make any sense.
Religion seems so contrary to biology sometimes. Why God would make humans one way, then get mad at them for following their programming does not make sense.
The word in Greek means a strong desire or longing for. That would certainly refer to desiring someone. I weep for those who recommend entering into a romantic relationship with NO sexual desire for their partner. What kind of a marriage is that going to wind up to be?! I can only shudder when I think of it.
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