My mom says that if I move in with a nonbeliever, I am being unequally yoke.
I think the main thing about being unequally yoked is somehow you are attached to someone who is not of God and you are giving in to the person, depending on the person in ways you should not. You're not perfect; if you are so interested in being with an unbeliever, I would say you can be somehow giving in, in ways you may not realize. Pray.
Has your mother helped you to get more real with God and learn how to relate with Christians? If she has been a good example for you, I would pray and consider what she says, and do not just technically argue about what words mean. Because you're not perfect; so you can easily out-think anyone, for the sake of what you want the Bible to mean, for what you want.
Well, in my opinion unequally yoked is about SEX.
As I offered, it has to do with if and how you are under the power of someone who is not of God. If you have walked in God's love with His peace and joy, it can be simple to see if an ungodly person is getting power to get you elsewhere. If you have learned how to walk in Jesus Christ's "rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:29), you can tell if someone is getting you into worrying and arguing and other unrestful things.
Any of that would be an unequal yoke, because it gets you away from the yoke of Jesus with His "rest for your souls" and how He has us loving anybody and everybody . . . not only using anyone. Using is not loving. In an unequal yoke, you can be trying to use the other person, somehow, while that person is trying to use you, and there can be a tug-of-war, or mutually agreeing to take advantage of each other but only for what you want, instead of learning together how to walk with God.
All of my friends are not Christians. I prefer it that way.
So, your mother's example does not inspire you to want to spend time with and grow with other Christians??
Is it my right to only hang out with certain people that I choose?
"If you love those who love you, what reward have you?" Jesus says in Matthew 5:46.
They know what I believe in and they respect that.
My family has been very "good" about honoring if I want to drink or not, and they do not try to get in arguments with me about Jesus and the Bible. And they encourage me to choose and enjoy whatever I choose to do while I am visiting with them. But they do not feed me the example I need, of how to get real with God and how to relate in love. So, being respected by unbelievers can be somehow good, but they can't minister what God makes us believers able to minister to each other.
If you are not deeply being satisfied to seek and enjoy sharing with Christians . . . whether or not you are wrong is not what you need to be dealing with. How about all that the Bible says is right?
I am not here to argue with anyone; I really want to know. Be blunt
You need the sharp word of God and our Father's correction, like we all do! But we need to be committed to staying with other Christians, though ones may do us wrong > still . . . keep having hope for ones who are wrong . . . like how Jesus never gave up on His disciples. However . . . Sonny . . . there need to be really Christian example people with us; I do not mean getting with a group with only wrong people.
Part of getting real with Jesus includes becoming strong enough and stable and deeply emotionally sober so wrong people can't have power over us to control what we do. We need to be strong in love so wrong people can not decide if we are forgiving or not, for one example. But we honor Jesus on the cross and His example, how He forgave us and has born with us in love.
So, we can't be judging about who is good enough for us! If we can't handle being with Christians because they are kind and gentle and humble and quiet . . . this means we are under the power of things of this life, and this is weak so we can in weakness give in to pain and frustration and arguing, along with selfish pleasures and conveniences. So, there are things we can do and may have a "right" to do, but we need how God and His people bring us to become strong in love so we can handle well being with any person, actually, and be busy loving the person, instead of judging if the person is worth our time and attention. Jesus considered each of us worth all that suffering!
We need the people who help us get real with Jesus. By the way . . . if you are into what you have a "right" to do . . . this can mean you have been already wrongly influenced by your unbelieving "friends" who have been grooming you to think about your own "rights". Because we in Jesus are faithful to Jesus, by first desiring to please our Father and do all He leads us to do. So, if your attention is elsewhere . . . yes, you are wrong.
