Scenario: Two years ago husband couldn't find job and ended up going to the Middle East to work. Wife realizes how much she loves him and believes God sent him away so that she realizes this. Husband and wife meet in Europe the first Christmas--what a reunion!
Fast forward seven months - wife finds discriminating chat on a Yahoo website; husband blames roommate. Sceptical, but all is forgiven. Husband comes home for 30 day home leave in September. Has such a wonderful time with wife and family. Wife finds email sent by husband to his coworkers he was looking forward to getting back and returning to his Den. Wife confronts husband (via email as he is back overseas). Told this is his "lion's den" at work. Sceptical again, not really believing this story but moves on.
Husband and wife meet in Europe for the second Christmas--wife feeling somewhat resentful and sad as husband in grouchy mood most of the time--missing the girlfriend perhaps? Husband and wife return to opposite ends of the world. Husband returns stateside one month later for father's funeral. Better visit in wife's opinion.
Wife pops in the husband's email account a month later, the Den name pops up again. Wife asks again. This time, it's an 8-year-old daughter of his coworker. Okay, sure. Wife moves on after being told yes, the temptation is there but his love for his wife is greater. Wife wants to beleive this more than anything in the world.
Husband and wife plan Europe reunion in July--he is finally coming home, never to return to the Middle East. This week, wife feeling uneasy (intuition again) that something about some of his emails just isn't quite right. Checks and discovers he was vacationing with Den in a neighboring country, she is leaving the same day he is (except returning to "poverty", so I assume she's one of many orientals working in that country), and other things that I don't want to bore you with.
Wife is crushed--what happened to this beautiful reunion that they have so looked forward to?? Wife still processing this information after the last email-snoop and doesn't know how to approach husband. She wants revenge and retaliation, but she also knows God would want her to show love, forgiveness, and mercy. Wife needs advice before approaching husband, who surely will come up with another lie to cover his tracks.
Should wife ditch this lying cheat once and for all? Try making it work (how does one learn to trust again??)? If wife opts for the later, it definitely isn't going to be without Christian counseling. Husband came from a dysfunctional family and has alot of underlying emotional problems (insecure, angry). Husband loves wife with all his heart and is basically a good person, but has been in trouble with wife in the past over inappropriate content addiction. Husband has medical issues including ED, yet????
Sorry so long - please help!!!!!!!!!!
Fast forward seven months - wife finds discriminating chat on a Yahoo website; husband blames roommate. Sceptical, but all is forgiven. Husband comes home for 30 day home leave in September. Has such a wonderful time with wife and family. Wife finds email sent by husband to his coworkers he was looking forward to getting back and returning to his Den. Wife confronts husband (via email as he is back overseas). Told this is his "lion's den" at work. Sceptical again, not really believing this story but moves on.
Husband and wife meet in Europe for the second Christmas--wife feeling somewhat resentful and sad as husband in grouchy mood most of the time--missing the girlfriend perhaps? Husband and wife return to opposite ends of the world. Husband returns stateside one month later for father's funeral. Better visit in wife's opinion.
Wife pops in the husband's email account a month later, the Den name pops up again. Wife asks again. This time, it's an 8-year-old daughter of his coworker. Okay, sure. Wife moves on after being told yes, the temptation is there but his love for his wife is greater. Wife wants to beleive this more than anything in the world.
Husband and wife plan Europe reunion in July--he is finally coming home, never to return to the Middle East. This week, wife feeling uneasy (intuition again) that something about some of his emails just isn't quite right. Checks and discovers he was vacationing with Den in a neighboring country, she is leaving the same day he is (except returning to "poverty", so I assume she's one of many orientals working in that country), and other things that I don't want to bore you with.
Wife is crushed--what happened to this beautiful reunion that they have so looked forward to?? Wife still processing this information after the last email-snoop and doesn't know how to approach husband. She wants revenge and retaliation, but she also knows God would want her to show love, forgiveness, and mercy. Wife needs advice before approaching husband, who surely will come up with another lie to cover his tracks.
Should wife ditch this lying cheat once and for all? Try making it work (how does one learn to trust again??)? If wife opts for the later, it definitely isn't going to be without Christian counseling. Husband came from a dysfunctional family and has alot of underlying emotional problems (insecure, angry). Husband loves wife with all his heart and is basically a good person, but has been in trouble with wife in the past over inappropriate content addiction. Husband has medical issues including ED, yet????
Sorry so long - please help!!!!!!!!!!