People at my church seem to dislike, ignore and try to get away from me, especially this one girl wh

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People at my church seem to dislike, ignore and try to get away from me, especially this one girl who was about to leave on a trip so this was her last week at church for a while, so at the end of the service she went around to everyone in the room and hugged and said goodbye to them. She did this with everyone except me. Why is that? Why would she just completely pass over me.. And when I walked out to say bye she just ignored me. I have asked in the past if I did or said anything to upset or offended her but she said no everything is fine. Then why does she just ignore and try to get away from me?
The Starbucks near me was closed on Thanksgiving, so I walked three miles to another coffee shop I go to because they had posted about having a coupon deal there like last year only to find out they RAISED the price of the deal from last year, and they couldn't tell me why!
 

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There are people like that... there's a lady I
know who don't like french people-- she don't
have a problem with any other culture /or ethnic
groups.

I have a brother who refuses to contribute to
the care of our mom...but he treats his lady
friends to nice things...they take and move on...
he continues to woo the ladies with gifts...been
like this for decades.

People tend to do what they want...they like who
they like etc.

Enjoy those who do include you...forgive those who
don't. Remember not everyone included Jesus.
Even when he healed folks...not everyone thanked him.

As for businesses changing their deals/coupons or
whatever -- that's how they roll...employees aren't
always told why things change at work...they just
do what their boss says.
 
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There are people like that... there's a lady I
know who don't like french people-- she don't
have a problem with any other culture /or ethnic
groups.
Tell her we don't bite! We are kind people (but quite proud I admit) I promise :)

Ashley, I think you have three choices: 1. You ignore her (at least you try, nobody can totally ignore such a thing) and you build some friendships with other people. And sometimes you can't help but you have no sympathy for someone. This is usually not against a person or anything, just a feeling and people follow more easily a weak feeling than kindness.
2. You integrate into her group and makes everything to prove you're a nice person who deserves attention.
3. You leave this church for a nicer one. This is perhaps the best solution.

Good luck!
 
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[...] I have asked in the past if I did or said anything to upset or offended her but she said no everything is fine. Then why does she just ignore and try to get away from me? [...]

Ask her why! :)
 
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There are people like that... there's a lady I
know who don't like french people-- she don't
have a problem with any other culture /or ethnic
groups.
Is she from English speaking Canada? Having a problem with the French is common in that demographic.
 
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