I'm angry with God. I don't know what to do

Awakened Sin said:

I'm afraid to be in relationships now because I fear that they will just stop liking me. Which is what I was constantly thinking about during my last relationship and it happened. So, I made the promise, not to date to myself, not God. After writing this, I am happy to say that I am glad I didn't break my promise especially with a girl like that.

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Oh, here it is, thanks. Young people, yourself and the girls in your life, have lots to figure out still. You're going to make mistakes. I think those girls have made a mistake by not considering first whether they like you before bringing you in then telling you. With more experience, they will find either they want guys for the fling or they will be more careful about the relationship. As young people you are, just passed childhood, still surrounded by potential mates, it is easy to be careless. Later you find that match making is much more difficult. So you just need to forgive these girls for the mistakes they made, that have hurt you. They are really new to this. And just use wisdom, don't be like a dog on a lead, led around so easily. It actually is not made for that purpose (you know what I mean). Once you give away control of your self for such simple pleasure, you are a tool. Don't be like that. Refuse the ones that want to use you, but go looking for the one deserving your special commitment. It really is the best life. I have seen it happening all around me. Promiscuous ones are like people going after wealth. They have money coming out their ears, but just can't seem to have enough. On the other hand, a happy couple are wholly content. You should pray on it, and ask Him to lead you to contentment. But certainly, you need to make peace with Him. Please concentrate on that, as one who can tell you, it is better that way

Awakened Sin said:

I'm so angry with God right now. I need his help, badly. I've been praying for his help for weeks. And I get nothing in return! Nothing! I always pray even when I don't need his help with anything. It does not make sense...

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Remember the point of prayer is not necessarily to overcome our sin it is to draw closer to Jesus who can help us overcome our sin. Focus on knowing God through reading your Bible and listening to Him and then find a godly pastor who can mentor you in your relationship dilemma. Also remember that God isn't going to answer a prayer that He has already answered in the Bible... He kind of did already... so if you are tempted to date someone that isn't going to glorify God - you have your answer already! (Read Proverbs...)

Awakened Sin said:

I'm so angry with God right now. I need his help, badly. I've been praying for his help for weeks. And I get nothing in return! Nothing! I always pray even when I don't need his help with anything. It does not make sense...

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Just to reply to the original post, I've had trouble with praying and not hearing from God either. Sometimes it seems like my prayers bounce off the ceiling. I got burnt out for a while and just stopped looking to hear from Him. I stopped reading scripture because it all "seemed" the same to me all the time. Then He would show me He was there with little things. My mom has trouble discerning Him too, she gets frustrated and mad as well. But I stopped being mad a long time ago, I assumed that if there was something important He wanted to show me, He would.

I read the Word now, but not divulging in it until I wore myself out. There's always got to be balance.

There are several ways to hear from God. It won't always be a booming voice from Heaven, or an angelic visitation. I know that He does not always answer right away, either, and sometimes we have to use the wisdom we have received already to make a decision.

But He IS there. I've felt before that He's forgotten me, too, but He hasn't.

One thing I know is totally true, because I'm in it right now, is that the Teacher is always quiet during a test.

Awakened Sin said:

I did not make the promise to God, for if I broke it, it would not be as bad. The answer I want is if I should keep this promise or not, if it's the right promise. For the future. I would be happy with either answer.

I thought I was listening that's the thing. If I have not gotten an answer that means I wasn't listening but I am.

God gave us free will and he cannot give me a girl magically against their will. I am not mad that I didn't get the girl, disappointed, yes. I'm mad because if God did give me an answer and that answer was her dating some other guy, I'm sorry but that answer took too long. My feelings developed a lot more during the time. If he had given me an answer from the start, I wouldn't be mad. But God has his reasons.

The promise was to myself because I know promises to God are discouraged.


You make a valid point. That's why I've been praying to God to see if this is the right promise. If had had someone "special" for me then he would say something about my promise, right?

I'm pretty sure I responded to all my questions. I don't know if I explained to you why I made this promise. It was because I dated two people in my life (I know tons of experience) and both relationships lasted about a week. Simply, because the girls stopped liking me. After this I realized relationships aren't for me. And I don't think I like to be in a relationship. Though in my heart I truly want to be in one. My brain (logic) tells me that it won't work. I'm afraid to be in relationships now because I fear that they will just stop liking me. Which is what I was constantly thinking about during my last relationship and it happened. So, I made the promise, not to date to myself, not God. After writing this, I am happy to say that I am glad I didn't break my promise especially with a girl like that. Unfortunately, my faith is faltering.I still believe in God and I say that because I still fear about going to hell if I denounced him. I literally grew up in the Church so I know a bit. I know in times like this it's best to go to church, but I find myself not wanting to go. I know I should be praying every day which I've done for the past years, but I have not prayed in three days. A few days ago I even hid everything in my room that reminded me of God, my bible, rosary, shirts, crosses, etc.

Please tell me if I have not answered a question, yet.

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God made us to be in relationships for a reason... not only so that our own needs would be fulfilled, but also so that we could meet the needs of others. That is what love is. It does not seek it's own contentment or only to be loved, but instead it seeks to give love.

That is one of the reasons that Christ came to earth---not just to be worshiped and adored,
but to give us the fullness of the gift of everlasting life in all it's aspects.

So how does this relate to dating? The answer is that it doesn't.
Dating is like walking into a cafeteria for a meal. There is far too much food, it all looks tempting,
and once started, it's hard to stop with one bite.

So instead concentrate first on knowing God and learning about HIS version of love. And when you've learned that,
then apply it to the relationships in your life, and you'll be much happier.

On the make side of that coin in post 44 is....

What is first love? Talking in a USA culture set loving God more than the female does not sit well with "most" females. This verses is not understood in line upon line format...Luke 14:26. That is hierarchy of first love. In knowledge alone acquisition the term hate is in adversary format. A descriptor not an applier (See Matt 22: 37-39). Yet, to a female , when their boyfriend seeks council from God and not her or refuses advise that stems from darkness and tries to explain it as meekly as possible, this one finds a wall has been set up over time. The female sees judgment of herself and that is not the intention of hierarchy. She just comes second as Matt 22 and Luke 14 state. This one did the same as he grew in the Spirit that she judges me (In younger days, lol) as her first love was God. This one built the wall in non understanding.

Also , one finds in this coulter if money is not first master "most" females see lack. Lack is negativity that ultimately stems from darkness for lack is things of the world but gain is in things of the Spirit. That scruffy looking guy or gal in camo's 2 weeks old may be the richest person on earth but are they seen? Why of course , in judgment for most.

Another setback is Past history. If a female or guy finds an interesting prospect "Most" people google them. What they read...is. More belief in past brought to present that is so against scripture and they are judged in our version of righteousness ignoring Rom:3:10 that no man/woman can judge lest they be judged by that which can destroy flesh and soul.

Anywhoo, as this coulter falls deeper and deeper into despair for knowledge alone has no compassion and knowledge alone is judged. Mayhap, as it becomes easier and easier to slander and another believes it in these endless lines of text then is one lost to text as there God,

A little tune as one reflects https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=arms+wide+open+creed
Let no man/woman steal your joy... Reason with God .

FanthatSpark said:

On the make side of that coin in post 44 is....

What is first love? Talking in a USA culture set loving God more than the female does not sit well with "most" females. This verses is not understood in line upon line format...Luke 14:26. That is hierarchy of first love. In knowledge alone acquisition the term hate is in adversary format. A descriptor not an applier (See Matt 22: 37-39). Yet, to a female , when their boyfriend seeks council from God and not her or refuses advise that stems from darkness and tries to explain it as meekly as possible, this one finds a wall has been set up over time. The female sees judgment of herself and that is not the intention of hierarchy. She just comes second as Matt 22 and Luke 14 state. This one did the same as he grew in the Spirit that she judges me (In younger days, lol) as her first love was God. This one built the wall in non understanding.

Also , one finds in this coulter if money is not first master "most" females see lack. Lack is negativity that ultimately stems from darkness for lack is things of the world but gain is in things of the Spirit. That scruffy looking guy or gal in camo's 2 weeks old may be the richest person on earth but are they seen? Why of course , in judgment for most.

Another setback is Past history. If a female or guy finds an interesting prospect "Most" people google them. What they read...is. More belief in past brought to present that is so against scripture and they are judged in our version of righteousness ignoring Rom:3:10 that no man/woman can judge lest they be judged by that which can destroy flesh and soul.

Anywhoo, as this coulter falls deeper and deeper into despair for knowledge alone has no compassion and knowledge alone is judged. Mayhap, as it becomes easier and easier to slander and another believes it in these endless lines of text then is one lost to text as there God,

A little tune as one reflects https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=arms+wide+open+creed
Let no man/woman steal your joy... Reason with God .

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But the question then becomes three fold:

1. why is a Christian boy looking for a girl who does not have the same value set as he does?
2. why place your trust in riches when they can just as easily be lost as gained?
3. why judge only by past history? If a person is alive, well, and sane, their past does not control their future.

Blessings in God ,

In response to post 46 in USA customs view. Also in male view & personal experience.

Q & A #1. For most, vanity & pride plays the greater significance (like self did back in the day) in what is "looked for". These are concepts outside of light (that which we were created under) where God had only one concept outside of His being in Gen:1:3. No boy should "seek" a girl but ask God. In the term seek, is the drive . Visa versa also applies to the girl "seeking" boy. Today, when God throws a woman in my path the question is... Whose your first love. So far , it is a person.

#2. This is limited to self. For me, a major lowering of World is required to revamp the mind so Spirit can indwell.

#3. In actuality it does. Our laws are based on it and it trickles down to the individual to think as the law does. Example: Someone moves next door and is a registered sex felon. Will we send our child with a welcoming cake? Yet, Saul killed children and is an author of the bible. Most are affronted (judgment is mosts way of life and lost most are for they will be judged by that which destroys souls) by darkness, and use darkness to limit darkness in things such as... Felon can not pursue many rewarding careers such as but not limited too Pilot, Lawyer, Doctor, Child Care, Armed forces, Police, so on and so on . This is not the mind of Christ, Light, God.

In the mind of Christ is the moment only as you saints well know where judgment and forgiveness 70x7 merge together. Where most get it bent is our ability to not forget a sin and this transfers to utter belief God does the same. This one would direct a seeker to Gen:1:2-4 and stop there and reason with God. For me, noticed is no judgment on darkness. Darkness...is. For me, these are the same verses 3-4 above and verse John 8:12. These do not judge darkness but those who choose darkness in our separation from Eden Gen:3:22 and walk in confusion of the Spirit one was made under Luke 9:54-56. In the measure some truths start manifesting as is suggested in post 44 to move self over and let God show us love. We are made in light as one continues to read Genesis. However, this is for the advanced reader that comes to realize negative terms are descriptors not appliers for how does God communicate to His creation in a preset universe of choice ? Is it not adversary? What is overlooked is one should not care how one came to agape as long as we are there but pride separates belief (look at all these different religions in this forum ) in how too. Saints come to realize to take from anothers joy (No matter how obtained) is in of itself pride. Darkness is very sly and has no qualms disguising itself in human perceived light.
What is human perceived light? For me, what is righteousness if Rom:3:10 is truth? Mankind holds no sway in a strong mind in God/Agape/Light/Holy/Spirit ... Another tune as one reflects. Keep in mind as one listens there is no judgment thus some of the lyrics will apply some will not, all we want is love . https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=what+if+creed

Awakened Sin said:

I've promised myself to not date until after high school, but I find myself wanting to break the promise. I ask God if this is the right promise and I get nothing from him. I was so close to breaking my promise and I didn't because the girl I wanted to date is a "player". Which made me even more mad because I wouldn't have felt love for this girl and God just helped me in the first place and told me not to pursue her. I asked him if I should date her, and I got nothing for him. I fell in love only to be crushed.

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Dude, you're making promises God didn't ask you to make. He wants to you prepare your heart and mind to be a good husband- pray for that and stay the course and you will be successful.

God never promised a) to help us keep vows that He hasn't asked us to make b) to make our life glorious and c) to make our lives filled with romance etc. He did tell us to carry our own crosses and suffer whatever may come through life.

The thing is I know I'm angry with him, but I just can't show my anger because I know there is a reason he's doing this. I know I'm contradicting myself but I just need his help and I get nothing. I ask him to give me clear signs.

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Tell him you're frustrated and angry. He'll help with that.

Awakened Sin said:

I've been getting no help from him for the past few months.

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You are going through a time of learning. When a child is learning to walk, the parent eventually has to let go of those hands. It means letting the child fall down. It's all part of growing. I know it's hard for you. But God really hasn't abandoned you. A time will come when you will see that too.