mgal1,
Part of the abuse wheel and the Duluth model are based on feminist ideology. Notice the 'gender privilege", which can make a non-feminist want to throw up in his her mouth. It's the idea that women are victims of the patriarchy, that patriarchy suppresses women-- that whole philosophy.
I find the underlying philosophy to be false and potentially damaging. The creation is a patriarchy and is supposed to be. God is the Patriarch, the Father, ruler over all things. I also see the tendency toward male rule in government and society, which we see in history, as an outgrowth of God's creation order. So of course, I don't agree with the underlying assumptions of the Duluth model.
Now, I know a lot of men who have to take some sort of training have problems with violence, so a lot of them get themselves into this mess, the mess of having to take some kind of feminist anger management course from an ideology who has been indoctrinated by anti-male philosophy. Some of the guys who get arrested for domestic violence are married to violent women and don't report them, or it doesn't get taken seriously. If he snaps and hits her back, she can easily call the police and have him hauled off.
Here is the opinion of a man who was subjected to an anger management class based on this ideology
In November of 1989 I attended my last meeting of Delta which is an anger management program for abusive men modeled after the Duluth Model. It was also the last that I saw my children for three months. I went to the west to work in the oil field hoping to stablize my family financially and win back my wife's heart.
In the mirror program called Renaissance, which my wife attended, she was told that I was the root problem of her dysfunction, the root problem of my dysfunction and the root problem of our marriage. As this caused me a considerable amount of grief, I shared it with the group. The facilitator told me, "She's most likely right."
I wanted to die!
It wasn't relevent that she has assaulted six men.
It wasn't relevent that two were severe. In her words, "I beat the @%&@ out of them."
It wasn't relevent that she continually verbally abused the children.
It wasn't relevent that she used me as a weapon to disipline the children.
It wasn't relevent that she was alienated from her father as a child.
It wasn't relevent that her mother was a drunk and a harlot.
It wasn't relevent that her father fought for custody and lost.
It wasn't relevent that she was raised by her Aunt.
It wasn't relevent that when intorducted to her Aunt for the first time she said to me, "This is my real mother."
It was relevent that I was male.
It was relevent that I was oppressing her.
It was relevent that I was a controller.
It was relevent that I was a lousy father.
It was relevent that I was a lousy husband.
It was relevent that I was raised in a violent family.
It was relevent that I lived in a patriarchy.
It was relevent that a patriarch requires violence or the threat of violence to maintain itself.
For the four days it took to drive out west I contemplated taking my own life. I had everything I owned in the back of my truck. Hitting a tree head on would have freed my wife and children of the bastard that I was and left no trace of my miserable life.
Anger management for men is such bull...
[I replaced one word with @%&@]
The man has some anger issues, but I can see how a feminism-based anger management program could be counter-productive in addition to being a form of psychological torture, especially if they don't let you complete the program unless you say, "I see five lights."
<----What is up with these smiles?
