You are presenting your argument as a competition as to which gender abuses more.
I was responding to another comment. If we talk about which gender abuses the other more that doesn't mean we are having a competition between genders. A spouse beating competition? Really?
Abuse isn't gender specific. That's been pointed out to you for years now.
Another obnoxious condescending comment.
You get so hypersensitive about the 'she' word, and assume it must be the females talking other females into being 'anti male'.
More obnoxious condescension, and not conducive to cordial debate. It's not true either.
It's not something I've thought about much, but calling abusees 'she' and abusers 'he' does fit with the thinking of some feminists that men are potential abusers and rapists and potentially out to hurt the kids, too. It was a spur of the moment point, and maybe a weak one, but one with some validity, and not something I'm hypersensitive to.
Notice your pattern here of making personal attacks against me. Can't you defend your opinions without trying to paint the person who disagrees with you a certain way?
Link I have also noticed that anything you don't happen to agree with is 'feminist'.
That's false. ISIS isn't feminist. I disagree with a lot of their beliefs and actions.
There are plenty of women and men that call themselves feminist (and heck even those like myself/husband that don't label themselves as such) that don't view men as potential abusers, and follow that line of thinking. Sadly, you have a problem acknowledging that.
Horse manure.
Where did I ever say that all feminists see all men as potential abusers? My position, is that some feminists think that. You can't disagree with that, can you? I suppose I could look something up, but surely you have read or heard this idea, at least if you are as old as I am.
Why would you make something like this up. If you thought about it, surely you'd realize that you can't back up that claim. Have you noticed that your recent posts toward me have been personal attacks? I don't care for feminist ideology, especially when it relates to trying to away with what scripture teaches on marriage. I make comments about an ideology, but you attack me personally. Most of your attacks are vague, sometimes condescending. Here, you posted a flat out slander, so I'm calling you out on it.
If you really want this cordial debate atmosphere on the forum, then you personally need to lay off on the personal attacks and condescending comments. We can disagree on ideas without making stuff up about other people. Here, your attack isn't even based on fact.
You know what I'm talking about. People objected to your terminology (ie stereotype - among others), and you even acknowledged it. Now you are playing the 'what you are talking about' game? Seriously?! I'm not being vague if you read what was said.
I still don't know what I'm talking about. I could play your game and say that you are intentionally being obnoxious. You know you are being obnoxious, and that you know how you are being obnoxious. But maybe you don't realize how obnoxious you are being, so I suppose I should not do that.
If you want me to know what you are talking about, refer to some specific words. I used the words that were used in the article I posted. I don't know which post of mine you are referring to unless you tell me. This practice of yours of throwing accusation against me without details and then saying I know what you are talking about and I'm smart enough to know what you are talking about is annoying and obnoxious.
If you want to have cordial discussion and debate on here, stop with the accusations, especially vague accusations where it isn't clear what you are basing them on, and the false accusations. Personal attacks are bad for cordial dialogue.
Stereotypes tend to start with 'most women' or 'most males' or 'most blacks' or whatever group they are targeting. When we point out your terminology is to broad or unfair? You call us hypersensitive. MG mentioned why she didn't feel it was appropriate in general terms, and you call her hypersensitive because you seem to feel her POV doesn't count. That's condescending.
Is this the basis of your vague accusation where I was supposed to know what you were talking about? Or was it something else?
If I don't think I've used 'stereotype' in an inappropriate way, when understood in context, I'm not going to have any idea what you were talking about in the last post? Other people have different perspectives, and they can't read your mind.
If this is what you were referring to, then you are really getting bent out of shape over some small insignificant thing, IMO, a difference of terminology. A stereotype is a category in our minds where we think certain types of individuals fit certain characteristics. That's the same process that goes on when we categorize an abusive personality, or when we categorize the type of behavior the article in the OP mentions (which may also be considered abusive.) 'Stereotype' does have a negative connotation the way it's commonly used. It doesn't make sense to object to using an abuse wheel and being okay with it when it applies to an abusive husband, but being opposed to the idea of describing the characteristics of a wife like the one described in the article, rejecting it as a 'stereotype', IMO.
I've also seen abuse wheels that were written in such a way that they could describe non-abusive people in marriages with a lot of conflict. Some of the behaviors on some of the abuse wheel diagrams are either normal human behaviors, or Christian behaviors that an atheist abuse counselor may not like, (quoting Ephesians 5, I Peter 3, etc.) Someone could go through the will and condemn a reasonably normal person for not giving money on demand, quoting scripture, giving a look, rolling eyes, etc. There is also the problem with taking the pattern from one murderer and trying to extrapolate that as a kind of general pattern. We've talked about the abuse wheel in other threads.