Hello everyone,
I haven't made a post in a while on here. My husband and I recently separated. We have a 2 year old child. After a couple years of him hiding debts and being untruthful about finances, and blaming me for asking questions, we have separated. On top of that, he was very unwilling to help me with much, around the house or even with our child if it inconvenienced him in any way. Whenever we had gotten into arguments or I had told him I wanted to leave he would tell me he'd change, it would never happen again. I would try to give him grace. Of course, it those things did happen again. Whenever I have tried to communicate, he would somehow spin things around and focus on one small thing I did wrong, even if it wasn't related. At this point, I'm not sure what to do. I love my husband and enjoy spending time with him. But the truth is that I barely trust him and always feel that he's blaming me for something, like I can't be good enough. I've voiced that to him yet he will even come up with things like me looking at him the "wrong way" when I really am not. Is there any advice anyone can give me?
I haven't made a post in a while on here. My husband and I recently separated. We have a 2 year old child. After a couple years of him hiding debts and being untruthful about finances, and blaming me for asking questions, we have separated. On top of that, he was very unwilling to help me with much, around the house or even with our child if it inconvenienced him in any way. Whenever we had gotten into arguments or I had told him I wanted to leave he would tell me he'd change, it would never happen again. I would try to give him grace. Of course, it those things did happen again. Whenever I have tried to communicate, he would somehow spin things around and focus on one small thing I did wrong, even if it wasn't related. At this point, I'm not sure what to do. I love my husband and enjoy spending time with him. But the truth is that I barely trust him and always feel that he's blaming me for something, like I can't be good enough. I've voiced that to him yet he will even come up with things like me looking at him the "wrong way" when I really am not. Is there any advice anyone can give me?