Hi all
My husband and I have been married for 26 years. He is a christian nominally. He became interested in bowling 2 years ago and we would do open bowling together. He decided to join a bowling league. I joined with him. It was nice and felt like a date night each week. I dropped out of bowling when I went back to school. He started bowling on a new team and formed a close friendship with a single female team mate who has a pre teen daughter. When my dad was given 2weeks to a month to live I had to convince him to tear himself away from bowling and take me to Florida to see my dad. He texted her en route there and she had the nerve to tell him to text her when he arrives to make sure he got there safe - as if I was not there. He texts her while she is at work - when I am not with him (he is retired). I have told him how uncomfortable I am with their friendship. He has gone away with his guy friends before with no questions asked by me. But she makes me uncomfortable and is flirtatious. I think she knows I do not like their friendship but he will not stop bowling with her. He even agreed to bowl with her without discussing it with me during the summer on Sunday evenings which had been our family day. Lately he is rude to my mom who visits us once a week only. Because of all of this I have learned that our marriage was a facade and he has reluctantly agreed to biblical marriage counseling. I am praying for him and his restoration to Christ. I am praying for her to find a godly, stable male influence who is not my husband. I truly want them to cease and desist from their association and I pray for that daily. I am very uncomfortable with it but he refuses to hear me and says I am controlling. He dotes over her daughter and even told my mom he would love to adopt her. The girl picks up his cell phone and plays game apps on it. He bought her a birthday cake. Please pray, please advise.
My husband and I have been married for 26 years. He is a christian nominally. He became interested in bowling 2 years ago and we would do open bowling together. He decided to join a bowling league. I joined with him. It was nice and felt like a date night each week. I dropped out of bowling when I went back to school. He started bowling on a new team and formed a close friendship with a single female team mate who has a pre teen daughter. When my dad was given 2weeks to a month to live I had to convince him to tear himself away from bowling and take me to Florida to see my dad. He texted her en route there and she had the nerve to tell him to text her when he arrives to make sure he got there safe - as if I was not there. He texts her while she is at work - when I am not with him (he is retired). I have told him how uncomfortable I am with their friendship. He has gone away with his guy friends before with no questions asked by me. But she makes me uncomfortable and is flirtatious. I think she knows I do not like their friendship but he will not stop bowling with her. He even agreed to bowl with her without discussing it with me during the summer on Sunday evenings which had been our family day. Lately he is rude to my mom who visits us once a week only. Because of all of this I have learned that our marriage was a facade and he has reluctantly agreed to biblical marriage counseling. I am praying for him and his restoration to Christ. I am praying for her to find a godly, stable male influence who is not my husband. I truly want them to cease and desist from their association and I pray for that daily. I am very uncomfortable with it but he refuses to hear me and says I am controlling. He dotes over her daughter and even told my mom he would love to adopt her. The girl picks up his cell phone and plays game apps on it. He bought her a birthday cake. Please pray, please advise.