First off this thread isn't meant to start an argument. I realize this is going to be a very touchy subject, but if you're uncomfortable and/or irritated about the context of this thread, please ignore it.
Let me give clarification about the context of this thread. There are some who discuss in regards to single Christians their sexual purity and waiting on God to resist succumbing to sexual temptation. This IS NOT WHAT THIS THREAD IS ABOUT.
I was watching a television sermon yesterday night for a few minutes and it was about challenging married Christians to have sex for a full consecutive week. It basically told of how sex is at the center of a marriage and what happens inside the bedroom affects the welfare of the marriage and vise versa.
However this is in regards to single Christians and sex; the preceding paragraph was just background info as to HOW I started thinking about it/what brought it up.
The view on sex in Christianity is exclusively for married couples and in most churches a single Christians's sexual needs aren't even looked at. Sex before marriage in Christianity is basically taboo and to do so is considered fornication. The church offers college groups or singles groups to help singles meet other singles (most of the time also so Christian singles can have fellowship with other Christian singles too) but quite frankly this doesn't have anything to do with sex.
The bottom line is single Christians have sexual urges and sexual needs as well. Unfortunately the reality is that some Christians will simply not become married and remain single their entire lives and not by choice. Some Christians are destined to be married, others are destined to be single, that's just the reality of things.
If a Christian is single, they cannot partake of sex due to the fact that sex before marriage is forbidden according to the fundamental beliefs of Christianity and the principals setforth in the Bible regarding sex as well.
My question is, how will a single Christian's sexual needs be met? How is it fair that married Christians can have sex, but a single Christian has no choice but to forgo sex in order to avoid sinning. Some single Christians can take-it-or-leave it for sex, but for other single Christians they don't have this kind of self-control nor this kind of constitution in regards to sex.
The advice most married Christians will offer to a single Christian is to just wait on God for your soulmate and pray to him to resist sexual temptation. For a married Christian to offer this advice to a single Christian very likely has the ramifications of it being the equivalent of a slap-in-the face to the single Christian. The reason being is because a married Christian is offering this advice to a single Christian and the married Christian can have sex all they want and whenever they want but a single Christian cannot. Even if the married Christian has the best intent possible with offering this advice, this is still a possibility of that reaction occurring from the single Christian's perspective.
It is true that a Christian will be able to devote more time to God and their relationship with God will be deeper typically than a married Christian's. Yes they will have his love and him to lean on, however the fact still remains that their sexual needs are still not being met due to being single. Yes the most important relationship is with God if you're a Christian, however this isn't a replacement for sex. A single person (or any other Christian for that matter) cannot have sex with God; quite frankly to do so would be an abomination of a sin to God.
Let me give clarification about the context of this thread. There are some who discuss in regards to single Christians their sexual purity and waiting on God to resist succumbing to sexual temptation. This IS NOT WHAT THIS THREAD IS ABOUT.
I was watching a television sermon yesterday night for a few minutes and it was about challenging married Christians to have sex for a full consecutive week. It basically told of how sex is at the center of a marriage and what happens inside the bedroom affects the welfare of the marriage and vise versa.
However this is in regards to single Christians and sex; the preceding paragraph was just background info as to HOW I started thinking about it/what brought it up.
The view on sex in Christianity is exclusively for married couples and in most churches a single Christians's sexual needs aren't even looked at. Sex before marriage in Christianity is basically taboo and to do so is considered fornication. The church offers college groups or singles groups to help singles meet other singles (most of the time also so Christian singles can have fellowship with other Christian singles too) but quite frankly this doesn't have anything to do with sex.
The bottom line is single Christians have sexual urges and sexual needs as well. Unfortunately the reality is that some Christians will simply not become married and remain single their entire lives and not by choice. Some Christians are destined to be married, others are destined to be single, that's just the reality of things.
If a Christian is single, they cannot partake of sex due to the fact that sex before marriage is forbidden according to the fundamental beliefs of Christianity and the principals setforth in the Bible regarding sex as well.
My question is, how will a single Christian's sexual needs be met? How is it fair that married Christians can have sex, but a single Christian has no choice but to forgo sex in order to avoid sinning. Some single Christians can take-it-or-leave it for sex, but for other single Christians they don't have this kind of self-control nor this kind of constitution in regards to sex.
The advice most married Christians will offer to a single Christian is to just wait on God for your soulmate and pray to him to resist sexual temptation. For a married Christian to offer this advice to a single Christian very likely has the ramifications of it being the equivalent of a slap-in-the face to the single Christian. The reason being is because a married Christian is offering this advice to a single Christian and the married Christian can have sex all they want and whenever they want but a single Christian cannot. Even if the married Christian has the best intent possible with offering this advice, this is still a possibility of that reaction occurring from the single Christian's perspective.
It is true that a Christian will be able to devote more time to God and their relationship with God will be deeper typically than a married Christian's. Yes they will have his love and him to lean on, however the fact still remains that their sexual needs are still not being met due to being single. Yes the most important relationship is with God if you're a Christian, however this isn't a replacement for sex. A single person (or any other Christian for that matter) cannot have sex with God; quite frankly to do so would be an abomination of a sin to God.
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