Brother and faking religion in front of relatives
- By Lady Bug
- One Bread, One Body - Catholic
- 5 Replies
Hi, I don't remember if I made a thread about this before.
Yesterday my brother and I were having a conversation about the possibility that my dad might have been faking his religion in front of us our entire life so that we (my brother and I) would not blab something to our relatives, either on the phone or if they came over. It doesn't mean that my dad didn't love me but he might not have been able to trust that I would not blab out of some sort of anger or heat of the moment.
However, a few months before this conversation, my brother had mentioned to me that sometimes you have to fake your beliefs in order to keep your relationships with people, and that totally turned me off. If he wants to try to fake being Muslim in front of the relatives so that they "keep him," he can knock himself out, but I'll be d@mned if he tries to drag me into doing the same thing. I actually don't know if he can fake it without eventually dragging me into it. I just worry that he's turning into my dad in the fakery department - to make matters worse, I'm even worried that he'll literally go back to being Muslim. He does not have belief in the religion itself at this time in his life. I think he used to believe in it, but not anymore, and there's a risk he could go back.
(The reason I think he used to believe in it is that I have a Quran at home which has notes that my brother wrote in it, from over 20 years ago - and my brother's notes looked more passionate about the faith back then).
So far, the only relative that my brother is keeping in touch with is our male cousin, but I don't know if that will be the only relative in the future.
Yesterday my brother and I were having a conversation about the possibility that my dad might have been faking his religion in front of us our entire life so that we (my brother and I) would not blab something to our relatives, either on the phone or if they came over. It doesn't mean that my dad didn't love me but he might not have been able to trust that I would not blab out of some sort of anger or heat of the moment.
However, a few months before this conversation, my brother had mentioned to me that sometimes you have to fake your beliefs in order to keep your relationships with people, and that totally turned me off. If he wants to try to fake being Muslim in front of the relatives so that they "keep him," he can knock himself out, but I'll be d@mned if he tries to drag me into doing the same thing. I actually don't know if he can fake it without eventually dragging me into it. I just worry that he's turning into my dad in the fakery department - to make matters worse, I'm even worried that he'll literally go back to being Muslim. He does not have belief in the religion itself at this time in his life. I think he used to believe in it, but not anymore, and there's a risk he could go back.
(The reason I think he used to believe in it is that I have a Quran at home which has notes that my brother wrote in it, from over 20 years ago - and my brother's notes looked more passionate about the faith back then).
So far, the only relative that my brother is keeping in touch with is our male cousin, but I don't know if that will be the only relative in the future.
Please pray for her comfort and healing in the meantime.