As a young married man of 23 and a wife who is 22, i was destroyed to come home and find my wife and some of her things missing. As i texted her she led me on to believe we were to meet at a local diner with one of our friends. Well I waited 90 minutes wading through obvious lies of her spending time with one of her women friends. She finally sent a text that said she loves me and the she cant talk right now. I immediately drove to one of our closer male friends homes to find the blinds closed and lights off. I knocked on the door and no answer, so I left....to the side of the complex. I then peered around to see him peering out the doorway and meekly checking for me. I confronted him and he had told me that my wife is hiding in his car and would not tell me where. He was one of the main friends we began to hang with this year. After hours of searching and no response from text or call I had to retreat knowing i would continue the next day. I later found out that they had gotten a two bed hotel room. The following day i had called into work and missed school to continue my search. I ended up visiting the residence and overcome with hurt picked her up and brought her down three flights of stairs and drove her to a close friend of hers who lived an hour away. She claims that she loves me, and claims she is not cheating; just that his place is the most convenient for her to try and be independant-- it is near an unusual amount of businesses in which to apply. She says she doesnt nkow if she wants to be married. She says she loves me too. that day i drover her around ended up with her being picked up by this guy. He refused to be near me so she was dropped off at the mailbox. I do believe that i wouldve done terrible things to him had he come within reasonable distance.
Anyhow, recently After giving her a day to herself, i went to church and got the feeling that i had not felt in years. I had faith. The lord told me that everything was going to be okay,. either way. I felt like i had to visit the residence and knock and talk to her. We ended up going out to eat, then for a pop at mcdonalds,then gokarting, then to walmart, and finally tim hortons before i dropped her off at his place. She really wants to be great friends, and said she is not decided yet but is leaning towards being single, although she was the one to suggest every single activity with the exception of gokarting-- we each paid our own way
. I dont understand this confusion but the lord seems to be telling me that I should be patient once again. She now is not refusing to see or hear from me; thought We had agreed upon two weeks buffer time before anymore contact. I almost think the lord is telling me that it is not up to me anymore. Just to let what happens,happen.
I havent been religious for years until this day. I had finally found teh comfort of the lord! I do not feel that she is cheating,but do feel that if she stays there it will eventually happen.
It feels that if i am to be married; it will need to be a christian marriage. Neither of us were religious; both had lost faith before meeting each other. She is a sufferer of childhood sexual abuse and has absolutely suffered from it. It was an everyday thing for her family. I saw her through the tough times and she knows that. She says I havent done anything wrong at all, just that She needs to make it on her own because she never had teh opportunity. After explaining how the living situation makes me feel and the alternatives she refuses to budge; and claims the reason for doing so is truly because of the proximity of the businesses for her to find a job.
The "friend" is deathly afraid of me at this point; probably a good idea for now, as an aluminum bat definitely had his name on it; fortunately a shelf he had given received the aggression instead. I feel like the lord keeps showing me signs that i must have faith and that i must be patient, as difficult as it is. I know I'll be okay, yet I feel that either situation means that there is a very very long road ahead. If we were to get back together, it would have to be as a christian couple;its almost like i realized today that since i had given up on my faith that my life had been aimless. She is so confused and does not have a purpose in life; wanting to travel the world but with no means or idea how.The lord has won me over in this dark time and shown me that Everything means something when the lord is taking control.
Since my family has gotten wind of things it has been very difficult to see how a resolution would come to pass as they all essentially disagree with her and support me.
One more thing that troubles me is that his friends are my friends. He now has no friends except family, and even goes to the same gym as my family. He has no one. She feels like she has no one. Its a horrible and eventual path if things dont change. I pray every day for things to be okay and for the patience and strength to make it through the day. Married young couples;couples where a partner has been abused as a child; surviving marriages of various transgressions, I ask of you.
I found my faith. How can I maintain the strength to do this?
Anyhow, recently After giving her a day to herself, i went to church and got the feeling that i had not felt in years. I had faith. The lord told me that everything was going to be okay,. either way. I felt like i had to visit the residence and knock and talk to her. We ended up going out to eat, then for a pop at mcdonalds,then gokarting, then to walmart, and finally tim hortons before i dropped her off at his place. She really wants to be great friends, and said she is not decided yet but is leaning towards being single, although she was the one to suggest every single activity with the exception of gokarting-- we each paid our own way
. I dont understand this confusion but the lord seems to be telling me that I should be patient once again. She now is not refusing to see or hear from me; thought We had agreed upon two weeks buffer time before anymore contact. I almost think the lord is telling me that it is not up to me anymore. Just to let what happens,happen.
I havent been religious for years until this day. I had finally found teh comfort of the lord! I do not feel that she is cheating,but do feel that if she stays there it will eventually happen.
It feels that if i am to be married; it will need to be a christian marriage. Neither of us were religious; both had lost faith before meeting each other. She is a sufferer of childhood sexual abuse and has absolutely suffered from it. It was an everyday thing for her family. I saw her through the tough times and she knows that. She says I havent done anything wrong at all, just that She needs to make it on her own because she never had teh opportunity. After explaining how the living situation makes me feel and the alternatives she refuses to budge; and claims the reason for doing so is truly because of the proximity of the businesses for her to find a job.
The "friend" is deathly afraid of me at this point; probably a good idea for now, as an aluminum bat definitely had his name on it; fortunately a shelf he had given received the aggression instead. I feel like the lord keeps showing me signs that i must have faith and that i must be patient, as difficult as it is. I know I'll be okay, yet I feel that either situation means that there is a very very long road ahead. If we were to get back together, it would have to be as a christian couple;its almost like i realized today that since i had given up on my faith that my life had been aimless. She is so confused and does not have a purpose in life; wanting to travel the world but with no means or idea how.The lord has won me over in this dark time and shown me that Everything means something when the lord is taking control.
Since my family has gotten wind of things it has been very difficult to see how a resolution would come to pass as they all essentially disagree with her and support me.
One more thing that troubles me is that his friends are my friends. He now has no friends except family, and even goes to the same gym as my family. He has no one. She feels like she has no one. Its a horrible and eventual path if things dont change. I pray every day for things to be okay and for the patience and strength to make it through the day. Married young couples;couples where a partner has been abused as a child; surviving marriages of various transgressions, I ask of you.
I found my faith. How can I maintain the strength to do this?