Would you date an unbeliever?

fluffy_rainbow · Feb 8, 2005

Before you were "saved" were you deaf to God's call of repentance?

I know I cannot speak for twistedsketch; however, when I was lost I found nothing wrong with wild, promiscuous sex, drinking, partying, smoking weed, etc. It wasn't until God got ahold of my life that I felt ashamed for my prior actions that I repented.

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

Please clarify this! I know the word and this is what the word says in :

1 Corinthians 7:13-16

13 And if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. It is to peace that God has called you.b 16 Wife, for all you know, you might save your husband. Husband, for all you know, you might save your wife.

Diane_Windsor · Feb 8, 2005

fluffy_rainbow said:
I know I cannot speak for twistedsketch; however, when I was lost I found nothing wrong with wild, promiscuous sex, drinking, partying, smoking weed, etc. It wasn't until God got ahold of my life that I felt ashamed for my prior actions that I repented.

Perhaps I should be more specific.

Before you were "saved" were you deaf to God's call of having Jesus become your "Lord and Saviour"?

Dw

renaistre · Feb 8, 2005

AveMaria said:
The flip side, of course, is that someone who isn't a Christian wouldn't be very likely to want to date me, so I guess it all works out in the end.

I don't know... my sister has been asked out by non-christians at school a couple of times. She turned them down.

I answered no because, as most of you here are probably tired of hearing by now, I don't date at all (insert Josh Harris "theory" here). If I did date, I'd still probably answer no, since I'd only marry a believer, and I veiw the purpose of dating as being a possible pre-cursor to mariage.

On the other hand, I have seen "missonary dating" work once. A guy I know wasn't a believer until a few years ago, and I really think he comitted his life to Christ as a result of dating a friend of mine, who is now his wife.

AquaFINEa · Feb 8, 2005

love4jesus said:
Why or why not?

No -I wouldn't. I do not think it wise of me, personally, to get involved with a man who does not relate to me on perhaps THE most crucial level possible -that being, spiritually. I think it is one thing to get involved with someone who may challenge you from time to time with your faith, but quite another to challenge you so much -and considering his ultimate goal does not align with yours - that this aides in distancing you from God. I think that if God is indeed important to a person, that that person should realize that what comes from God cannot be something -or someone- which would create a rift in one's relationship to God. Being equally-yoked is important. Someone citing verses that suggest that a woman's faith justifies an unbelievers must consider that the verse, I believe, suggests that if two unbelievers get married, then say the woman converts to Christianity, that the husband is then justified by the wife's faith. But, please correct me if I am wrong.
I hope that make sense! God bless!

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

AquaFINEa said:
No -I wouldn't. I do not think it wise of me, personally, to get involved with a man who does not relate to me on perhaps THE most crucial level possible -that being, spiritually. I think it is one thing to get involved with someone who may challenge you from time to time with your faith, but quite another to challenge you so much -and considering his ultimate goal does not align with yours - that this aides in distancing you from God. I think that if God is indeed important to a person, that that person should realize that what comes from God cannot be something -or someone- which would create a rift in one's relationship to God. Being equally-yoked is important. Someone citing verses that suggest that a woman's faith justifies an unbelievers must consider that the verse, I believe, suggests that if two unbelievers get married, then say the woman converts to Christianity, that the husband is then justified by the wife's faith. But, please correct me if I am wrong.
I hope that make sense! God bless!

You are right! I am doing a online bible study of it right now. Misunderstood the concept of that scripture.

1 Cor 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

If a BROTHER/SAVED man is married to an unbelieving/lost in sin woman and they get along pretty well let them stay together..

This is not saying that a believer marries an unbeliever, but that one or the other became a believer AFTER they were married.

1 Cor 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him

1 Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified (blessed) by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified (blessed) by the husband: else were your children unclean; (morally impure- demonic-evil) but now are they holy. (sacred, morally blameless pure-righteous)

AquaFINEa · Feb 8, 2005

That's great, Love4Jesus -keep searching the Lord's Word and you will find those answers!

God bless!

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

AquaFINEa said:
That's great, Love4Jesus -keep searching the Lord's Word and you will find those answers!

God bless!

Thank you for correcting me. It seems as though others had good arguments to their reasoning but I had to find out for myself. I did. Not that I was considering dating an unbeliever but the fact that I needed to know for future reference. I never fully understood that scripture given that I have not been a christian for too long. My online bible studies are helping me grow closer to God. You are one of few people, who didn't put down my answer nor did I feel attacked by you. I noticed that sometimes Christians tend to put in their own beliefs. I appreciate your patience and kindness. May God continue to bless you and use you to do good works.

Love your sister in christ.

Monique

fluffy_rainbow · Feb 8, 2005

Diane Windsor said:
Before you were "saved" were you deaf to God's call of having Jesus become your "Lord and Saviour"?

Ah, I gotcha. Well, I had obviously heard the Gospel before, but I was trying to hide from God by pretending He didn't exist. When God did call me to a life for Him, it was very sudden.

FlyerBoy · Feb 8, 2005

I would give it a shot with a nonbeliever. Everyone needs a little help gaining a relationship with God. I know rather we wouldn't be dating long or she will end up going to my church, because i am so involved right now. The reason i said "yes" mainly is I feel I could give it a shot turning the person toward God.

Blank123 · Feb 8, 2005

jmhirn said:
I would give it a shot with a nonbeliever. Everyone needs a little help gaining a relationship with God. I know rather we wouldn't be dating long or she will end up going to my church, because i am so involved right now. The reason i said "yes" mainly is I feel I could give it a shot turning the person toward God.

relationships have a way of playing with your thoughts and feelings. before you enter the relationship you may have your mind made up that she will either come to salvation, or the two of you will break up, but have you considered the very real possibility that she could end up dragging you down and pulling you away from your faith? it happens much more than you might think.

or the other thing that could happen is she'll say that shes accepted Christ just to please you, but she hasn't actually made a decision. that is also a very common thing for unequally yoked couples.

missionary dating is incredibly dangerous for a believer, if you want to witness do it as a friend.

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

jmhirn said:
I would give it a shot with a nonbeliever. Everyone needs a little help gaining a relationship with God. I know rather we wouldn't be dating long or she will end up going to my church, because i am so involved right now. The reason i said "yes" mainly is I feel I could give it a shot turning the person toward God.

Not a bad idea! Maybe if you asked the person to go to a church event or something with you, it may work. If the person is a buddhist or a follower of another God, she may not agree. If someone asked me out, I would say, "I am going to church on Sunday would you like to come?" If that person goes they may understand you. If the person says, "Ah, bible studies? nah" then I will turn down their offer. I would say, we can always be friends.

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

little_tigress said:
missionary dating is incredibly dangerous for a believer, if you want to witness do it as a friend.

I am curious, what is missionary dating? Can you please explain it to me? Thank you, I would appreciate it.

fluffy_rainbow · Feb 8, 2005

I don't know. I don't think it's right to jeopardize your walk in hopes of "saving" someone.

JPPT1974 · Feb 8, 2005

love4jesus said:
You are right! I am doing a online bible study of it right now. Misunderstood the concept of that scripture.

1 Cor 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

If a BROTHER/SAVED man is married to an unbelieving/lost in sin woman and they get along pretty well let them stay together..

This is not saying that a believer marries an unbeliever, but that one or the other became a believer AFTER they were married.

1 Cor 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him

1 Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified (blessed) by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified (blessed) by the husband: else were your children unclean; (morally impure- demonic-evil) but now are they holy. (sacred, morally blameless pure-righteous)

Thanks for the verses Love4Jesus as they will come in hand! You are so, so sweet as well as faithful in your walk with the Lord.

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

Well, I have to get off now. I don't fully understand the concept of all this. Aren't there Christians who know the word but don't really know God? Please, know that I am not trying to start a debate. Rather, I seeking Godly wisdom from those who may be more spiritual then I. Thank you I will come back later.

Love&Pain · Feb 8, 2005

JPPT1974 said:
Thanks for the verses Love4Jesus as they will come in hand! You are so, so sweet as well as faithful in your walk with the Lord.

Thank you for the compliment. Here is some more on the online bible study I did today on that chapter: http://cnview.com/bible_study/1_corinthians_chapter_7.htm

I try to remind faithful, especially through the hard times in life. I have a passion for people and God. I always hope that I may save soomeone. My dream is to become an outreach minister. I love teaching the Good news and helping those who don't know the Lord. Feel free to pm me anytime. I would love to talk.

God bless.

Monique

hockeysistah12 · Feb 8, 2005

jmhirn said:
I would give it a shot with a nonbeliever. Everyone needs a little help gaining a relationship with God. I know rather we wouldn't be dating long or she will end up going to my church, because i am so involved right now. The reason i said "yes" mainly is I feel I could give it a shot turning the person toward God.

Yes, but not in a dating relationship when you be with this person who is not of the faith who may make you do something you will regret later.

Blank123 · Feb 8, 2005

I am curious, what is missionary dating? Can you please explain it to me? Thank you, I would appreciate it.

missionary dating is dating an unsaved person with the intention of bringing them to Christ.

hockeysistah12 · Feb 8, 2005

I edited this post out of this thread because some people were deeply offended by one of my postings, and as a result, I will gracefully leave this thread because I don't want to cause anymore trouble here.

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