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Stop giving them the power to upset you. If they're looking down their noses at you, it's only their own insecurity or power complex that's at work. If you know you're being the best Christian you can be, you can be confident in that, and what someone else thinks of you won't affect you so much.
What is the correct way for dealing with "holier than thou" types, do you think? Someone who is there to rain on your parade just because of their personal convictions. They're in every church, every forum, every chat, every group. So how do you deal with them?
Well, "holier than thou", by definition, means that they are interacting in a way that says they feel they are above you, or superior to you. If someone simply says, "I don't believe this is right because the Bible says this..." I wouldn't define that as being holier than thou.
That isn't to say someone might be overly sensitive and defensive and interpret ANY bit of advice as someone being condescending so...
I guess that equals a whole lot of nothing lol.
agreed. just because someone says, i disagree because of this and this, they are not being holier than thou, but boy when they use that as a way that shows they are above you, then its easy to call out that spade.Well, "holier than thou", by definition, means that they are interacting in a way that says they feel they are above you, or superior to you. If someone simply says, "I don't believe this is right because the Bible says this..." I wouldn't define that as being holier than thou.
That isn't to say someone might be overly sensitive and defensive and interpret ANY bit of advice as someone being condescending so...
I guess that equals a whole lot of nothing lol.
Thank you for clarifying, Silver.
However, I do think a lot of us (myself included) tend to jump to the conclusion that someone is "holier than thou" a little too fast. It's a fallacy of hasty generalization. Not until we can prove that they actually have this attitude should we base our conclusion. Give people a chance.
I used to come across to others as "holier than thou." The problem isn't just with one end of the situation. If someone is coming across as holier than thou, I generally tell them how they're coming across. If their attitude changes, great! If their attitude doesn't change, it's rare that--even when I try--I can get past how I perceive their attitude.
Though with my father I've had to learn to sort of roll over his jokes about my hair or clothes being ungodly.
That is an excellent point.
Online, all you see are typed words. You don't see eyes, facial expressions, hands, you can't hear subtle inflections in the person's voice.
Be kind but dont waste ur time arguing with them. Its not like its mandatory to be there best friend. Some people actually say i get like that sometimes, but then again, those same people ive heard mention it do things at work that they shouldnt be doing, so some of it may be they just dont like me trying to follow the rules.What is the correct way for dealing with "holier than thou" types, do you think? Someone who is there to rain on your parade just because of their personal convictions. They're in every church, every forum, every chat, every group. So how do you deal with them?
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