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Why do I want someone to abuse me

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Some are uncomfortable with being sexually mature as a single as so are somewhat negative about that.

Is it possible that you are reticent about thinking about sex as something you look forward to? So, your thoughts tend towards the negative. Or, you don;t have a robust self image?

Whatever the reason, you don't need to accept that is what you do in fact want. Sometimes we have odd thoughts that seem to have a life of their own. Then, we must begin to consciously affirm against them and not accept them as being true and a part of who we are.

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Depends on what you want and why, I would think.

If you saw a movie and somebody slapped their girlfriend or kid, would you think "that seems fun/exciting/worthwhile...." like the experience itself is what you're interested in?

or more like, you want to be in an abusive relationship and overcome it? Like, it would be an opportunity to test/prove your strength or see what your personal limits are?
 
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It sounds to me as though you feel ignored or neglected.. maybe if you are shy people don't notice you. Being abused isn't the answer.. I knw it may seem that others get a lot of attention due to their issues, but it isn't worth it.
Maybe you need to think about how you can find something worthwhile which will make you feel better about yourself?
 
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Sweetie, it sounds as though what you are looking for is love and attention - and often the abused seem to be cared for and pitied by many people.
It isn't glamorous or heroic, though, sweetie, it is painful, traumatic and often emotionally crippling.
Maybe you could volunteer at a shelter and see the reality of abuse - that may stop you feeling this way.
Above all, it sounds as though what you need is to be loved and cared for.
Praying that you can find that, sweetie
 
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