When Christians attack

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 11, 2012

I don't know if any of you have seen the show "When animals attack" but that is what inspired my title to this thread.

The question is "What should we do when people, whether Christian or not, attack us?"

What should our reaction be?

IMO we should be like Christ, or becoming more like Christ everyday, even though we cannot reach perfection and we know Jesus is perfect. But as we learn about God's love for us, it should cause us to try to love that way.
What do you think?

Life2Christ · Sep 11, 2012

I felt attacked by someone yesterday (I am very sensitive) but I know that it wasn't personal and I have to separate my personal feelings. Sometimes the attacker is just angry in general and takes it out on anyone. Other times the attacker is angry with YOU. I think the most important thing is to stay out the attacker's way and do no harm.

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 11, 2012

I also think it's important NOT to attack back or try to defend yourself (I'm guilty of this part) because it's a no win situation. It's like my dad used to say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a fight than to be in one.

dayhiker · Sep 11, 2012

If the attack isn't true, then I just figure they are ignorant. I usually don't try to straighten them out.

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 12, 2012

So last night I get a text from my daughter's soon to be ex husband asking me to help him without texting or calling my daughter get her into someplace because she needs help.

They have been going thru a divorce and I'm learning that he is controlling. When she first left him he blew up my phone with texts telling me I needed to talk to him so he could tell me the "truth".

So this morning I text my daughter and ask "are you OK?" to which she responds "yeah why?" and then she calls me and I tell her what he said.

So after we talk (and she sounds just fine) I get another text from HIM again saying that I must not really care about her and that I just want her to be miserable like me (I'm not miserable) and now it's "on me if something happens to her".

Attacks come in all forms and right now it seems to be coming from men that don't even know me. I'm not bothered by this latest attack, I kind of just laughed and said to myself "really?" BTW my daughter is in her 30's it's not like she's 18

MorkandMindy · Sep 12, 2012

memoriesbymichelle said:
So last night I get a text from my daughter's soon to be ex husband asking me to help him

I'm guessing here that he is self-absorbed and believes the World would all fall apart if he wasn't holding it together.

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 12, 2012

MorkandMindy said:
I'm guessing here that he is self-absorbed and believes the World would all fall apart if he wasn't holding it together.

That and he's mad as heck that he can't control her anymore. She even tried to save the marriage by asking if he would consent to marriage counseling, but he only thinks SHE needs counseling, not him.

mjmcmillan · Sep 12, 2012

Been there, done that, only it was flip-flop. Of course the abuser is never the one who needs help, only the abused needs counseling-- to see how wrong the abused is. Don't ask--- it never seems to change.

dayhiker · Sep 12, 2012

What a jerk .. and I haven't said that many times!

blackribbon · Sep 13, 2012

When attacked, I moved 1400 miles away. Not sure that is the right answer every time but it was right this particular time. (I wasn't grieving my husband's death properly....at least according to everyone else's needs.) It is lonely but doesn't hurt as much.

Tnmusicman · Sep 13, 2012

memoriesbymichelle said:
I also think it's important NOT to attack back or try to defend yourself (I'm guilty of this part) because it's a no win situation. It's like my dad used to say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a fight than to be in one.

Yes,unfortunatly that's very hard to do sometime,especially when an atheist is attacking me. I get so mad I just want to.......SHAKE EM GOOD AND PROPER!!
Yeah, I know.........and I really try. I'm getting better about it but it's something I go to God about on a daily basis.

dayhiker · Sep 13, 2012

Darn those atheists!

Life2Christ · Sep 13, 2012

I get scared of exes. Sometimes they want to take revenge. My policy in life is to treat everyone as if they are a potential murderer. Usually when I read about a murder in the newspaper it is usually somebody the victim knows, like an ex. I'd rather kill with kindess.

renewed21 · Sep 13, 2012

Life2Christ said:
I get scared of exes. Sometimes they want to take revenge. My policy in life is to treat everyone as if they are a potential murderer. Usually when I read about a murder in the newspaper it is usually somebody the victim knows, like an ex. I'd rather kill with kindess.

I'm kinda slow L2C, please tell me that you are joking

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 14, 2012

I don't think she's joking and I can totally relate

mjmcmillan · Sep 14, 2012

It's been in the news. Usually, it's the ex-husband/ex-boyfriend who kills, but every now and then you hear of it being the other way around. Jealous rage can be a take-no-prisoners kind of deal.

NicoleSelser · Sep 15, 2012

Exes are scary, especially if they end up being mean in the end of the relationship- making you ask "who is this person?" I feel for your daughter, MBM, he sounds like a total jerk face.

As far as what I do when I'm being attacked- I'm a newbie Christian so this answer has changed for me recently. Before, I'd probably fight back & try to defend myself in a ungodly manner. Now, I'm very polite and understanding, even when they're not so kind.

In all honesty, I didn't think the way I handled this situation would change much, but last night I had a friend come at me full swinging. He was name calling, cussing at me, and just being straight up rude to me because my cousin (who has a boyfriend of almost two years) didn't want to sleep with him & ended their friendship whenever she found out what his intentions were.

Surprisingly, I was calm and collected- slow to anger. I really surprised myself, especially since I feel very protective over the people that I care about, and he was showing her clear disrespect. I'm pretty sure God had everything to do with my calmness about the situation. It was weird though because two verses popped into my mind.

"But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." - Matthew 5:44

"Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots." - Luke 23:34

memoriesbymichelle · Sep 17, 2012

dayhiker said:
What a jerk .. and I haven't said that many times!

I agree but when I shared this with my sister in law (who doesn't know him either just like me) she thinks he is just trying to really help her. Personally I don't think either one of them is telling the whole truth, but they are in their 30's and 40's so why is it "on me"? I have no power except to pray for them both.

MorkandMindy · Sep 17, 2012

If he was just trying to help her then your daughter would know it (Wolves in sheep's clothing comes to mind).

That she married him and now is divorcing him suggests to me that he
1. takes people in very convincingly with his pretence of caring
2. and she eventually discovered he not interested in anyone but himself

renewed21 · Sep 17, 2012

None of us know for sure. We can all speculate but I don't see how that helps anyone.

We hope the site problems here are now solved, however, if you still have any issues, please start a ticket in Contact Us

When Christians attack

Senior Veteran

Life2Christ

Guest

Senior Veteran

Mature veteran

Senior Veteran

Andrew Yang's Forward Party

Senior Veteran

Well-Known Member

Mature veteran

Not a newbie

Sinner Saved By Grace

Mature veteran

Life2Christ

Guest

what are you waiting for?

Senior Veteran

Well-Known Member

NicoleSelser

Guest

Senior Veteran

Andrew Yang's Forward Party

what are you waiting for?

Similar threads

Privacy & Transparency

Privacy & Transparency