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I work out too, both for my health and to make myself look better. Don't understand why girls wouldn't want you if you're that muscular though.But I ask myself similar questions, since people consider me "fit and good-looking" as well. And then when I think about those questions, I get all arrogant and act as though I'm God's gift to women in order to make up for my insecurities, which usually come back to slap me in the face.
Glad I found someone who's in the same boat though; not that I actually want you to be in that boat. It's a nasty place, honestly.
Castration then?I don't see how you could avoid the "near occasion" since there are so many lovely women around in our world.
(And no to other people, lust does not mean that you are some sicko. We all do it, which only adds to the fact that this sort of thing is a bit on the impossible side.)
Comment: IMHO, I have noticed in my life that women are VERY reluctant to let their guard down to answer this openly, like our culture that tends to think men are the bad guys.
That's his nature.
In painfully honest style:
I grew up being made fun of mercilessly about how I look, by peers in church. So I grew up feeling rejected from the get go and even though I think I became pretty and I often heard that those that teased me really liked me or were jealous, the damage was done. I never got asked out in highschool, I still got teased or slammed about my looks even though I don't think I looked that bad (looking back now) by people who acted like I deserved it b/c i was "ugly" . In adulthood, I never got asked out, Christian guys seemed to give off the impression that it was the worst thing in the world to be near me and that I deserved to be made fun of and the butt of jokes; so I struggled and sometimes still struggle with thinking if God made all sorts of other girls to be really beautiful and wanted (not in a bad way) then why did He make me like this: to look how I look, to be surrounded and raised among people who collectively reacted to me the way they did, to experience all those bad negative experiences where I didn't get one shred of positive that would have at least assured me that I was ok and not a total reject. It's odd thinking for sure and it took me long enough and enough damaging experiences to find someone that assures me daily (even when he didn't know all this about my own insecurities) that he likes and loves and is proud of the way I look and who values and respects me as a woman. I'm coming out and have been coming out of this way of thinking for a while, but sometimes an experience or an encounter with someone from the past will pop up and i'll wonder things again. It makes me feel distant and like God's red headed stepchild when that happens...... Thank goodness for God's word that repeatedly tells me what He really thinks of me....Now if i could only believe it unwaveringly.
I think my biggest struggle is just understanding who God really is. Obviously the Bible gives us some clear indications but I still struggle with knowing His will and understanding why He does what He does. I think it all boils down to wishing that God would give me less free will so that I might do His, which I don't seem to do enough of when left to make my own decisions. I hope that made some kind of sense.
I got the idea for this thread while talking to my friend.
We all have our own person struggles in our walk, somethings that are easy for some people are extremely hard for another. So I figured why not start a thread where we can help each other not only through our current struggles but as well as our long term struggles.
What hinders your belief in God?
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