weary beyond belief

jillygal50 said:

hi. i'm new here.....divorced in October.......bone weary from dealing with apartment problems, lawyer problems (still have not received my settlement, which was WAY less than I was told I could get)...problems with adult children....stressful job......how do you find the joy in the Lord? I trust Him. He has provided for me in many way...financially, with loving family who help me, a great home Bible study group who support me....i want to feel thankful...i want peace....i want some joy....is is so wrong to just want to have fun??!! and relax!!..i feel i'm just in survival mode and sick of rude obnoxious people who I seem to run into daily in all walks of life. Thanks for letting me vent.

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I would take a look at your daily life and see what is not necessary. Cut those out and use that time to re-focus your walk with God. A Bible study group is great, but sometimes God speaks to us in those still, quiet moments when no one else is around. It sounds like you need some time to get to know yourself. Sometimes, I just need some time alone to praise and worship my Daddy alone. I sing without worrying who is hearing me sing off key. I pray aloud without hesitation and talk to God without worrying who thinks I'm a complete nut case. Get an answering maching and let all calls go to that, then you can answer them on your own time. Carve out that block of time for you and God. Is it possible to change jobs? Pray for God to lead you in that direction.. He is so faithful!! I have had so many examples in my life lately where God has answered me over and over again. You have to ask for it though (IMO). Ask Him for that peace and joy. Ask Him to be with you. "Cast your burdens upon Him". He carries them much better than we do anyway..

One of the stages of Grief is anger...

OK to be angry...just make sure that you vent your anger in appropriate fashions and outlets...

Not putting anger that is rightfully due somewhere else to be directed at innocent people who haven't done anything to deserve that kind of response.

Takes time to "heal" from a divorce...it is where half of you is now missing and the scar tissue needs to form there. Not a comfortable process at all. There is life beyond divorce. It simply takes time.

Is this your first divorce or second?

What did you mean by "the settlement was WAY more then you were told to expect"?