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Have you ever gotten to a point where you have to stop cutting because you are afraid you will go too far?

Just wondering, because I'm at that point right now. I've been a cutter for 4 years now (I am afraid to use the term "former cutter" for fear that it won't hold true - not even sure that I want it to), and this past February, I picked up the habit again after 581 days of being cut free.

From February until July, I didn't really cut much at all. However, in July things got bad between me and my fiancé (those things got fixed within the next few weeks, but the damage was done) and I started cutting seriously again.

So I have prayed about it a lot... talked with J (my fiancé) about it... and in early August threw away all four blades that I had stored up in different places. I know that were I to pick up another set of blades again, it would go too far, into the ER visit range, and I've been there done that, and don't particularly want to do it again. It was interesting, but still, I've spent more than my fair share of time in hospitals. Don't want to spend any more time. And I definitely don't want to get sent back to the psych ward for a fifth time to get me remedicated. Heh.

Anyway. Just wanted to know if any of you had experienced this.
 
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I haven't experienced this because I knew, once I started, it could get out of hand quickly, addictions are easy to get hold of, hard to get rid of, and can easily spin into oblivion, especially for me (both my parents are alcoholics, one is okay now, but the other still drinks). I have to be careful...if I get into something, it can easily become an addiction for me. I claim to have things under control, but I knew that SI was something that could kill me faster than something like pot. (I don't recommend switching addictions, get help for the one you have cuz you could end up with more than one). I switched from one little thing (in my mind it was all little things) to another. It saved me from scars, I'll say that...but my relationship with my mom is a bit bruised and battered and the paranoia from fearing I'll get caught by the cops or my mom or the RA at school is so insane...even now that all the stuff is gone, I have a fear that I have something left in my room that my mom will find and question me about...(this is all an explanation to not switch and how I managed to not still be cutting).

Are you getting help aside from yourself? Addictions are not quit alone, we always need help from someone. Get some help, not your fiance, your mom, sister, brother, someone like a psychologist, counselor...someone who can be objective.
 
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I have experienced getting to the point where you know the next time you will go to far and that is part of what kept me away from it for 3 years. It is along the same thinking where you say one will be enough but it never is. I also understand not using the term "former cutter" due to the fact that I went back to it after about 3 years without it.

I am not sure what comfort it is but I am sure at least some of us have been there.

Just know that this is a struggle of yours and maybe the fear will help you and remind you why you cant go back to blades for comfort.
 
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Thanks for your reply. I'm sorry about the tough situation you are facing currently... wow. Good that you aren't cutting, though, but still... switching addictions isn't healthy, either, as you pointed out.

I am seeing a counselor (have for three and a half years) and have a pdoc, and am currently on 6 meds. So I've pretty much got all of the bases covered. The urge to cut still does strike me, though, and I miss it so much. I don't know how to find something with which to replace it... guess I'll figure it out somehow, sometime?

Thanks again.
 
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