The problem with "Every man is a potential rapist"

Gadarene said:

So it's got nothing to do with whether you've been raped or not then

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Jack of Spades said:

Hi Zoii

Patriarchalism means a society, or a family, where a man is the leader and only men have power.

It's opposite is Matriarchalism, which means that women are leaders.

Historically, most countries have been patriarchalists, men having more power in family and society than women. There have been few matriarchalist societies too, but they are more rare.

What I wanted to say there could be said this way too: "Taking power away from men doesn't lead to equality, if we give all the power to women instead."

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Zoii said:

Ah ok i get you. Do you prefer the word a partnership?

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KTS said:

When a quarter of women will be raped, and there's a 90% chance that rape will be committed by a man, don't you think that women are entitled to be cautious?

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Radrook said:

The problem is that not all men have the same control ovr their passions. That can be dur=e to two factors:

1. Age
2. Heredity

Age:

During Early manhood we men are overwhelmed by CONSTANT thoughts of sex and the CONSTANT reaction of our body to such thoughts. That is why the Bible recommends that marriage is better than to burn with passion because at an early stage we men are literally on fire. If two people who are highly sexually oriented temperamentally produce a child, that child is likely to be supercharged at adolescence and manhood.. For such a man petting is like flooring the accelerator on a car accelerator and keeping it there. Stopping becomes virtually unimaginable.

A woman who is unaware of this and engages such a man in what she considers casual petting, and casually declares she wants to stop, might find a problem on her hands because of his vehement insistence that he cannot.

That insistence might even impel him to try to force her to continue. Now, this fellow did not plan to rape the woman but found himself doing so and then regretting it. So all rape isn't premeditated but can occur under such a circumstances. That is why marriage is recommended if we are under severe sexual pressure as the Bible tells us.

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ToddNotTodd said:

You keep throwing that statistic out even after I've mentioned that it comes from a study where the authors themselves are calling that statistic misleading:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brian-earp/1-in-4-women-how-the-late_b_8191448.html

I think you might be letting the media fuel a fear in you. It's one thing to be cautious. It's another to be paranoid.

I asked my wife if she'd take a defensive stand in an elevator with a man. She said at night, alone, in a bad part of town, with no one else around - maybe. During the day, in a office building, or a shopping center, or yes, a train station - never.

She does not lump all men into the set of "potential rapists". She does not throw out misleading statistics. And she's happy that she doesn't live her life fearful of men.

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