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There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way that woman looks. That is why I would ask GUYS, not WOMEN if they find her attractive, because women have a tendency to have very 'different' views of what is appealing to men and what isn't.
I'm looking to connect with a female emotionally, spiritually, mentally AND physically, thereby making settling for someone plain or ugly impossible for me. Sorry.
I'd personally feel like I'm being short-changed by being with a woman I find physically unattractive. I would be thinking I deserved better and that I got gypped because I can't have someone I actually find attractive.
It probably IS in my best interests to settle and go for some "plain" or "ugly" girl, as suggested, but that is a difficult hurdle for me to cross. In some ways, I'd rather date guys over a female I do not find attractive. (No I'm not gay.)
Like with all things in life you either take something you can actually get, or you make do with nothing. But it appears you're willing to go beefcake, so I guess that leaves you a third path....... Maybe you'll find a really good looking [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse].
I think it depends on how late into the night it is. Once the party is over you're kind of left with what is there.
That's funny.
Your first statement is true, you get what you can get or you get nothing. Very true. We'll pass on the drag queen path thanks. My point is that there are some women out there that look worse than men, I've met them. Obviously I'm going to go with the "make do with nothing" path, what other choice is there for me?
I'm wondering though if everyone can just "take what they can get" then why is anyone single??? Barring extreme mental issues which most people do not have, no one should be single, unless they just like it better.
I'm not talking about one night stands. I'm talking about starting a relationship with someone. Most men will go for anyone at all when it comes to a roll in the hay. (Women are a bit choosier on that.) But when it comes to establishing a real relationship, most men want an attractive girl. Can't say I blame them.
I'm not talking about one night stands. I'm talking about starting a relationship with someone. Most men will go for anyone at all when it comes to a roll in the hay. (Women are a bit choosier on that.) But when it comes to establishing a real relationship, most men want an attractive girl. Can't say I blame them.
I was just kidding. I think physical attractiveness is very important when you first meet someone and its importance falls precipitously as you get to know them. My father always said, 'Beauty is only skin deep but ugly goes clear to the bone.' I think there is more truth to that statement than I ever knew as a child.
That's definitely true.
But if you get sick at the thought of touching someone, I don't think there's going to be much in the future for a relationship like that. Can't someone be with someone else who is both physically and non-physically appealing? Or is that but a pipe dream? It's like you have to pick, personality OR looks, never both. I've met people who have had neither.
Roughly 90% of Americans get married at some point. So when you throw out people with extreme mental or physical disabilities and people that are in relationships but don't believe in legal marriage then that's pretty much what you have: the people that want to be single. There's a small group of what I call "switchers," usually women, that switch to wanting a family life only when they realize they're not as successful in their careers as they'd hoped they'd be. But that was still a matter of choice for them.
Most people end up taking what they can get at some point, it's a bit unreasonable not do it. It's like going into your local BMW dealer with 10,000 dollars and demanding a new 7 series. Sure you can hold out for it, but you're never going to get it. So you find a car you can buy with your 10K because a Ford Focus is better than nothing at all. That's kind of the rub buddy: if you were going to get one of these uber-attractive women you wouldn't be on an internet forum talking about the issue. C'est la vie. The only question you really have to answer is the matter of whether feeling like you didn't settle is worth having nothing at all. A plain girl might be plain, but that's just over looking all the many qualities she does have.
There are several places in the bible where each sex notices the attractiveness of each other. I think that too much focus on the physical turns into lust.
Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone who you originally *did not*find attractive initially?
No.
I mean in the looks department. Like they were not *unattractive* but their looks didn't WOW you?
No.
Conversely, have you ever found yourself repulsed by someone who you initially found attractive physically?
Yes. A bad personality can ruin the prettiest of faces. But a nice personality cannot make an ugly person not ugly, unfortunately.
I know I have on both counts.
People say "valuing looks is shallow" because on a certain level it is true.
Perhaps I missed a post of yours, but... OP, have you ever dated before? I think your answer would explain a lot (to be presumptuous).
You're supposed to have lust (desire / attraction / passion) for each other. Or do you fancy dead, lifeless marriages void of any real spark?
To lust after a woman you want to date=bad *people tend to jump into bad relationships)
To lust after your wife=can be good if not taken to the extreme
sparks tend to die in relationships. There better be something else both parties can focus on other than the physical or else the relationship is dead lust or no lust.
Hmm, this is interesting. I would like to know more about this.
How would me having dated before help you explain "a lot?" Can you be more clear?
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