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needhelp1234 · Jul 6, 2011

Am I wrong to not like it when she (that special girl) swears? I've told her a couple times that I hate it when she swears but she either gets angry at me or she blows it off as a joke. Her main excuse is that her older sibling swears and so do her other close friends so "she can't help it". Yes, she is Christian, but I just can't tolerate people who swear. On top of that this is the only thing I've ever asked her to not do, and I've put up with multitudes of instances where she does. On the other hand, she's told me 10, 20, 30 things that she doesn't like me saying or doing and I try my best to remember all of them but if I forget but one of them she gets angry at me like no one's business. Yet, I can't help but fall for her because she is so sweet and angelic at the same time.

branchofthevine · Jul 9, 2011

My brother, may I give a warning. If she continues without regard to this request of yours be sure that she is not close to God. I do not mean to come across as judging because I know not all things like God. However, in James the brother of Jesus says that our profession of our faith is worthless if we cannot control our tongue (James 1:26). In Matthew Jesus himself says that we will be judged for every idle word we speak, and on judgment day our words will either condemn or acquit us (Matthew 12:36-37). There is good news. Paul writes in Romans 6 that sin would not have dominance over us, but we can have victory over our sin (Romans 6:14). Even controlling our tongue. This is a true and trustworthy statement. If you humble yourself before God and renew your way of thinking away from sin and towards God and Pray for his Grace to overcome sin Jesus will help you and your girl to overcome sin.

The first promise in the NT is Matthew 1:21 "You shall call him Jesus, for he shall save his people from their sins".

Take heart, there is tremendous hope for this girl because she is still alive. The best way for her to change is to see the light in you. Be filled and overflowing by the Grace of God and she will see that and by God's grace be convicted and change.

Take heart, God knows all details of your situation, and take this promise that is pleases God to shower you in his saving grace.

needhelp1234 · Jul 10, 2011

branchofthevine said:
My brother, may I give a warning. If she continues without regard to this request of yours be sure that she is not close to God. I do not mean to come across as judging because I know not all things like God. However, in James the brother of Jesus says that our profession of our faith is worthless if we cannot control our tongue (James 1:26). In Matthew Jesus himself says that we will be judged for every idle word we speak, and on judgment day our words will either condemn or acquit us (Matthew 12:36-37). There is good news. Paul writes in Romans 6 that sin would not have dominance over us, but we can have victory over our sin (Romans 6:14). Even controlling our tongue. This is a true and trustworthy statement. If you humble yourself before God and renew your way of thinking away from sin and towards God and Pray for his Grace to overcome sin Jesus will help you and your girl to overcome sin.

The first promise in the NT is Matthew 1:21 "You shall call him Jesus, for he shall save his people from their sins".

Take heart, there is tremendous hope for this girl because she is still alive. The best way for her to change is to see the light in you. Be filled and overflowing by the Grace of God and she will see that and by God's grace be convicted and change.

Take heart, God knows all details of your situation, and take this promise that is pleases God to shower you in his saving grace.

Thank you so much I have tried telling her Bible verses such as these before and she seemed to take heart, but she never changed. Actually earlier this year she also did not like swearing but recently she has developed the habit, much to my dismay. However, I'm not here to make myself seem self-righteous, I too am a sinner, not even close to perfect, but I try my very best to not. The most disturbing part is that she has become immune, no longer even trying to control it. I don't know if I should cry or yell or scream at her. I don't know what to do. I pray, so hard, every day about it.

You are correct, there is much more to this than I could ever hope to type out, things only some of our close friends understand.

religious&reasonable · Jul 11, 2011

Don't cry, or yell, or scream. Doing any of those will garuntee you being single. A much much much better approach is tp just be very calm and casual about it. Going overboard can alienate people.

You don't like her swearing. A valid and rational complaint.

But think about this, if she really means that much to you, it it worth losing the relationship over?

On her wanting you to be perfect and naming lots of things you do wrong and getting angry about 1 if you forgot, from what I know, I've never met a girl who is not like that.

It all comes down to if she is worth it to you or not. It's up to you.

al_man · Jul 11, 2011

All I can say is keep praying and praying and praying, never underestimate the power of prayer! Jesus calls us to 'always pray and never give up' (Luke 18:1)

needhelp1234 · Jul 11, 2011

religious&reasonable said:
Don't cry, or yell, or scream. Doing any of those will garuntee you being single. A much much much better approach is tp just be very calm and casual about it. Going overboard can alienate people.

You don't like her swearing. A valid and rational complaint.

But think about this, if she really means that much to you, it it worth losing the relationship over?

On her wanting you to be perfect and naming lots of things you do wrong and getting angry about 1 if you forgot, from what I know, I've never met a girl who is not like that.

It all comes down to if she is worth it to you or not. It's up to you.

Sorry, I don't want y'all to come away thinking I'm some crazy teenager or something. By crying, I feel like that because I've watched her slowly crumble. The person I remember from 2 years ago is nearly nonexistent. No, I'm not some sort of nostalgic freak, I know her real personality is still hiding underneath.

Ok, thanks mate, guess I'm not alone on this one then.

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