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I deal with that, too. Christmas time was especially hard, coming home to family and friends who ask LOTS of questions about how college is, or how I'm doing in a certain class. If you're like me, you push yourself just past (or even sometimes way past) what you should, and it keeps building up.
Aside from good friendships and maintaining a quiet time with God, one of the best things for me has been trying yoga. Even 10-15 minutes a day is great; it's always done slowly, focusing on breathing, and it's very relaxing.
praying for you as you start new classes soon, right?
 
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jbug,

Wow. Yeah, self-expectation levels that are set too high can be a real downer. In fact, setting expectations of anyone, not only of the self, can worsen depression.

I find that I set expectations of others too high, and then interpret their "failures to meet my expectations" as a reflection of how they feel/judge me. It's a double-edged sword!

Yoga sounds nice; or anything to focus on simply living for the moment and allowing one's self to just "be".

~Witness
 
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i know how you feel. Sometimes its hard to take life slow..i have a tendency to take things all at once..even when I keep saying I dont want to do that. Sometimes its hard to slow down. Sometimes i keep reminding myself, "if i dont accomplish things I want to accomplish here and now, something later in life more great will come along and i will accomplish that..it just takes time".

I will be praying for you!
I might try that myself now..lol
 
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I have a streak of perfectionism so yeah I know what it's like to expect to much of yourself. If you are able to try focussing on all the things that you have achieved and you will find that you have done alot more than you realise because even small things can be counted as achievements.
 
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I can relate so much to what you are saying I have to high expectations of myself if i fail i feel so bad. I am a control freak and i want to do thing right always even though i know it does not always happen.

What helps me is to journal the things that have been good and to look back and to also let myself seek support when i am finding life depressing. Praying for you. Just remember God did not make Junk everything he made for a purpose that is you. No one is perfect would be nice we all have areas where we do fail but we have areas where we have positives and thats what both of us need to focus on is where are strengths are God never wants us to be burden all he asks us to do is do what we can do and leave the rest to him. People do put you down but you do not have to please them but know God understands what you can do can he knows your heart. It is hard but i am praying for you. If you need to talk you can pm me or who you feel comfortable with. ((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))
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jbug said:
When I expect too much from myself I can tend to get myself down. Does anyone here ever feel the same?
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All the time.

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I've noticed that this really worsens my depression. I know it's healthier to take life more slowly but it's so hard with society's expectations of college-aged people.
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The societal expectations we place on ourselves will always be there. We have to limit the effect they have on us. It helps me to spend time trying to clarify my own goals, focus on making tiny steps toward them, spending time with the Lord, and even spending time exercising.

Unmet expectations are a real source of disappointment in relationships, too.

I hope you can have realistic expectations of yourself, and not let the expectations of others overwhelm you.
 
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Yes, I can identify with what your saying about expecting too much from yourself. I am very self-critical and hard on myself. We have to remember to treat ourselves with grace. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. I don't know what your expectations are that your trying to live up to, but I hope you find some peace about that.
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