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Hello, for those of you here I'm looking for help with my situation (also i dont know if this is the right thread to post this but never mind that) from bible scriptures to reassurance, whatever the Lord put in you to say every little bit helps me so where do I begin?
This has happened to me a long time ago maybe when I was 11 years old anyways it all started when I was browsing the Web and a pop up showed up and it was a naked woman I closed it instantly and asked God to forgive me but the devil knew it was his chance to strike and put the last of wanting to look at it more and I did, more and more and one night ready to go to bed these bad thoughts of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit came into my mind and it scared me so bad that I was sick throwing up and asking for forgiveness it lasted for a while and went away and forgot it but just recently around October it happened again and it hit hard this time I felt like I hurt my heavenly Father, my friend I quit work. This at the time I truly felt like I hit the bottom of the barrel I did the sin that will not be forgiven, I wanted to end my life story there than have this in my head but I continued to keep going everyday this depression this horrible feeling of having these thoughts going through it stopped everything I was destroyed I kept imagining that God has left me and I felt sicker, didn't eat, didn't do anything stopped training to go to the military and stopped learning for college I kept asking for forgiveness, kept praising him but I didn't get better no peace until late November I read some forums here about people also going through it and hear some testimonies at church about people going through some hard times and I recovered a little bit but I still have some guilt about what happened, I still see that I someone who grew up with the Lord had this happen to him nd I won't be forgiven I still have no motivation to do the things in life like school etc I still get the sick stomach feeling and the thoughts still pop in every so often. I feel like I can't do things in my life cause I'm so focused on having those thoughts from coming in. That's why I've came to this site to see if I could help from you guys and talk about this and get it off my chest and see what answers you and Lord give me.
So thank you if you read this long post about my problem.
Take care and God bless you all.
 

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Hi CB,

Suggest spending more time studying Scripture.

http://www.e-sword.net/ is a good help.

Especially using The Strong's to consider the original language + definitions of key words.

A good way to study is to read until something stands out distinctly, then delve into that verse or passage, looking up the definitions of the key words within that text.

Also consider that our adversary is an opportunist / extremist.

Which is to say that if we are prone to feel bad over our sins (which is appropriate), he will try to make us feel so bad that we give up, (which is not appropriate).

Of if we're prone to feel little or no remorse, he'll try to exagerate that insensativity even further so that we not only wrongly feel good about ourself while living in sin, but will also try to encourage others to not feel any remorse over their sins as well.

But The Lord is not like that - He gives us strick warnings about continuing in sin, but He also resonates hope that we can find the solution in Him if we keep diligently seeking Him for it.

Hoping and praying this helps.

And May The Lord Be Pleased to Bless & Keep. Amen.

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Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. <---> Psalm 119:11
 
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Hi Christian Believer_14, it's like the enemy to keep on BUT our sins aren't bigger than Yeshua's saving grace. It's in your heart you're FOR HIM or you wouldn't have even posted about this. Yeshua is definitely in the heart business.
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." I John 1:9 "...the Lord looketh on the heart." I Sam 16:7

Encourage you to pray and let Yahweh know you're accepting His forgiveness.
 
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If you know that Christ died for your sins but are struggling with unrational thoughts (meaning you can't disperse an intrusive thought even though you know it reasonably not to be true), you may have what is labeled as OCD. Obviously this diagnosis is better for a professional but having it myself I've dealt with exactly what you are talking about. It's a miserable state and those around you who have not gone through it don't understand. This leaves you feeling isolated and alone. BUT YOU'RE NOT. Here are some resources regarding feeling condemned:

http://graceprovoked.org/index.php/theological-studies/336-who-then-condemns

http://graceprovoked.org/index.php/theological-studies/335-even-if-your-heart-condemns-you

I'd suggest doing some research on OCD and find it sounds like what you're dealing with. I haven't tried this test out, but reading over the questions many there are applicable to me. (Keep in mind this is a worldly organization).

http://ocdla.com/ocdtest
 
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From what I can gather, you are struggling with online porn.
First thing to realize is you are not alone. Millions struggle with this.
There are tons of resources out there.
Biblically, porn as we know it did not (and could not) exist in that time period. Instead, people simply did it in real life. Today, we have internet video.
It's almost worse--because we can sit behind our screens, falling into disrepair, lusting fruitlessly, wearing down our soul night after night, but "it's not that bad right? At least I'm not REALLY sinning? It's not like I'm actually out having sex with random women? I'm just fantasizing about it."
It's bad because it's easy. You don't even have to think about it. Imagine this--if you had to walk next door and proposition your neighbor's wife anytime you wanted to sin, would you do it?
 
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Not quite but yeah at the stage of puberty I was but not anymore I really appreciate this post though I get what you mean thank you for it
 
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Everyone thank you for taking time to post on my situation I really appreciate all of this, I honestly do. So far I have prayed and asked for forgiveness and after reading the links Griswold sent I have been feeling much better the thoughts pop up sometimes but I just push them away and ignore them I feel like I shouldn't have these keep putting me down and I should continue with life and have the Lord close with me. I kinda feel like this experience helped me have a deeper understanding of my God. Thanks everyone again I will keep you guys in my prayers and God bless you guys!

God is good, all the time
All the time, God is good.
 
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i can say only one thing, and it is, those who still bring that offense to the world are very sick persons (i would say something slangy if there were no forum rules), on the one hand they bring temptation, on the other hand they accuse the victims of their temptation before God - it is called "offense" in the Bible, which is why it is written:

Revelation 18:6 "Reward her even as she rewarded you, and double unto her double according to her works: in the cup which she hath filled fill to her double."

and this is the system of spiritual wickedness that brings offense to the world mainly in the form of ostensibly sacred religion

first of all, know that sex is not unclean of itself, second, know that there are devilish spirits coming from the world of spiritual wickedness/human(666) religiosity, as it is written:

Revelation 18:2-3 "Babylon the great is fallen, is fallen, and is become(i.e. because it is the thing that turns out to be) the habitation of devils, and the hold of every foul spirit, and a cage of every unclean and hateful bird(i.e. of every unclean sublimity and inimical(satanic) angel). For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies."

and, unfortunately, the world is still full of angels and spiritual servants of satan, maybe you don't see/notice them, but they are there and watch you waiting for an opportunity to cause you harm, because they use special occult methods to act/operate from a distance (remotely), for they are practically angels of satan

how many times it was said to them to stop judging people for consumptions, moreover, none of the true God's kingdom ever asked or allowed them to bring offense to the world, but they continued to do it

may the true One help you solve your problems

Blessings
 
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