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TheDatelessLoserX2

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Well as if things couldn't get much worse, my friends and I went to the movies tonight, and it turns out the one friend who was still single is now hooking up. SO that made 3 couples and me, I felt so outa place after it was over I just got up and went home without 2 words to anyone. Why do they even invite me out anymore? Why am I dumb enough to go? Am I some sort of entertainment? Its almost like a rub in the face. Why is this bothering me so much, I really didn't use to care about this kind of stuff, but for some reason its really getting to me. Ok I'm done now.

*steps off soapbox and walks home, avoiding any apple trees on the way*
 

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Look at the other side of it. Perhaps they are doing their best to remain a real friend.
Would you rather they forget about you and never invite you to anything?
Becoming so consumed with their partner that you don't exist to them?

Perhpas there are positive aspects to this. Many.
Look for the good.

Also, are you friends with both persons in each couple? Or simply one person
from each couple? (or a combination) Getting to know each individual would
possibly make congregational experiences better.

Staying home wouldn't benifit you anymore than provoking a pity party,
especially when you have been invited out and you would decline for such
a reason as the above.
Why do you go? Perhaps to hang out with your friends? I'm just thinking now,
you would know more than me, but perhaps you are expecting something
that isn't happening.

Its good not to care about that kind of thing. I hope your friends are actually
pursuing my first train of thought, including regardless of their relationships.
Perhaps you just had one of those moments.

Also, whats wrong with apple trees?! (hehe)
 
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Yes I know both people in the couple. I don't know why they invite me, I think its to try to include me, yet when I'm there they don't talk to me much unless their signifigant other is in the bathroom, or what I call courtesy talk. And I am becoming more of a lone warrior myself, but not by choice.


Btw the apple tree thing refers to another topic on this forum about reaching for apples, read that one if you want to understand.

http://www.christianforums.com/t672210
 
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That wouldnt be a bad idea except that the last time it happened, I was told some things about the girl (like that she was Christian) that were not true, and the whole ordeal turned out to be a BIG disaster. Besides I'd feel stupid asking them to set me up <------too much pride....
 
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just go hang out with them one of them is bound to have a lonely friend.... or sister :lol:

no man really it is better that you be there for your friends because (saidly to say) alot of woman are just a fleeting thing for a guy. the last thing that needs to happen is like they break up and realize that they treated you like a jerk and feel like they lost a good friend also.

Plus if they are Christians and dating an unChristian then you can be there atleast and try to help keep the accountable
 
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Its tough I think waht I would do is say "We will have a day out / evening and the rules are that no one who has boy/girl friends are allowed to stick together all evening" we had this prob with are teens, so that the singles were left out, bang out of order!! So at times they go out as a group of indivduals and not staying as couples this way they learn to thin about others and not be self centered, with the attitude of ""Im alright jack, tough to you"..may be thats a solution?
Bless you john
 
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Pride messes me up every time, more often than I'd like to admit. If you call them on their closeness bothering you they may choose to exclude you. If you're not game to getting set up and you are uncomfortable with their closeness, I'll pray for God to send you and angel.
 
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