aaron said:
Hello guys, it has been a while since I have been on the forums here, so I'm not sure which board I should really put this thread on (if there is a better location, feel free to move it admins)
Ok. So here's the deal. I have been friends with this girl at college for the past two years. I would consider us good friends. Now this whole time I have known her practically she has had a boyfriend. I like her more than just a friend though, and have for a while.
Now my question is, should I tell her? By telling her I wouldn't be hoping for her to dump her b/f or anything. If she's happy than I am glad for her. So as I'm mainly directing this question to the ladies, if you had a boyfriend, would you want a friend of yours to tell you how they felt about you (w/o other intentions) or to just keep it to themself?
I thank you very much for your help as I have been going over it for a while now.
Myself I would be flattered to know you would like the person, BUT the big BUT - It may put a distance in your friendship if you do, it would be hard to be around you any more, If she is happy in that relationship. But if you wait you just might end up with the girl.
Now if it is worth possible chance of losing the friendship to you, I would go for it. If you would rather her be your girl, then a friend. Feel Free to PM me if I could be any help.
I have been in this same sitution myself before, I have been married 16 years now. I am still with my that same boyfriend now Husband, and that friendship I had, I had to push him aside, we were really close almost like boyfriend and girlfriend, but it ended there. I loved my husband then and now the same. If I would have stayed in that situation, It would have been temption on both our parts, or could have turned into cheating, or even worse, I would have lost my love of my life.
Don't take me wrong every situation is different. That is just my point of view. I am not a cheater and I never will be. God has blessed me with a wonderful hubby and he will bless you with the right girl, If you pray and believe, In his time. Trust Him, You will be blessed too.
God Bless and have a great day.
Starr