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My boyfriend has been planning on coming to visit me at school the last weekend in April since sometime in either January or February. When i was home for spring break last week we found out that my sister's college graduation was the saturday that my bf was planning on coming down. I've been trying to decide what I want to do. My sister has already told me that she doesn't care if me or my brother come to it, it's not that big of a deal to her. Then there's the fact that she lives about 6 hours from me. It would be a 12 hour car trip in one day, something i'm not sure i really want to do.
I told my boyfriend that I wasn't going to go to my sister's graduation, it was to far to drive in one day. When i told him that he started telling me that I should go to her graduation, he even offered to come with me (which is silly because he lives about 2.5 hours closer than I do). I feel as though he's trying to get out of coming down to see me. He came down for my homecoming in October and again in December to see Phantom of the Opera, so i know it's not that he's afraid to drive that far or anything like that.
I guess my question is, am i being silly?
 
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To be blunt and honest, yes you're being silly. However, I completely understand how you feel. Let me start by saying that your sister really does care if you and your brother go to her graduation. Like your sister, I often don't want to make people do something for me if I think they don't want to. She probably knows that you really want to see your bf and doesn't want to be a burden on you. However, I think it's important for you to be there, to show her how much you love her and to celebrate this great accomplishment. Besides, your sister won't be graduating everyday, so enjoy the time with her. Next, your bf really does want to see you and I think that his offering to go to the graduation with you is great. Don't let your insecurities interfere with your relationship. Trust him to be honest with you. After all, he wouldn't be your bf if he didn't care. I think he realizes that this is an important occassion. If you are dating him with the intent of marrying him, then you will have lots of time to spend with him. I hope this helps.
 
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Inperfected said:
Can he not come on another weekend? It's not TOO far, and it's possible to make it another weekend unlike your sisters graduation.
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actually, no. He's in the High School play and they have practice every saturday. Then, the play is on March 31 and April 1. I'm going to be up that weekend for it and because his birthday is March 30th and mine is on April 2nd, but I really won't be home for my birthday because I'll be heading back to school. The next weekend, the 8th and 9th he's in Chicago for a band trip and he's missing my spring formal, the weekend after that is Easter, I'm not sure what he's doing the weekend after that, the next weekend is the 29th and 30th, the weekend after that I'm going to be home for his prom. I have exams the week after that and will be home on Wednesday. So, no it isn't possible for it to be on a different weekend
 
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Then is it TOOOO hard to wait that long if need be? Or even let your fiance come to the graduation with you? I know it's hard, and I"m not saying this from a level of no experience... My fiance and me have just had 3 months with a total of 40 mins talking spread over 2 conversations... And that includes being on the other side of the world...

It is possible to spend time apart, and succeed in a relationship, infact it sometimes helps it.
 
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your sister wants you there-as someone said before, often people say "only come if you can" which translates into: "PLEASE COME I REALLY WANT YOU THERE."
both of you go on a road trip, how you spend time with him shouldnt really matter in the end, right???besides, roadtrips ROCK..
 
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