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Princess Leia

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Ok... I feel kind of silly posting this on here, because I know most of you have dealt with things a lot worse than what happened to me...
When I was 8, one of my brother's friends spent the night. He ended up sleeping in my bed, which my Mom thought wouldn't be a problem. He did things to me that night that I will remember till I die... but is that abuse? He was maybe a year older than me, but close to my age... is it still considered sexual abuse?

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Honestly, it depends on what he did to you. I'm not asking you to describe it or anything, but there's things he could've done that you might not like, but it doesn't make it sexual abuse. If you're asking about the age difference, just because he was 9 or 10 doesn't make it any less abuse. He did things to you that you weren't comfortable with nor did you allow him to do. If you wish, PM so we can talk about this further, my door is always open. God Bless!
 
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Ok... I feel kind of silly posting this on here, because I know most of you have dealt with things a lot worse than what happened to me...

Dont ever compare your pain to anyone elses, every situation is different

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If he did anything to you and you felt uncomfortable then its abuse whether there was penetration or just heavy petting. If you feel like you have been violated then you have. Sexual abuse can be something as simple as your father, uncle, family friend, whoever giving you a suggestive look everytime you go into the bathroom.
 
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I agree with all the posts here there is no way to say wether or not what you went through is any worse, abuse is horrifying and traumatizing no matter how bad it is. When I was groped in the hospital by a patient it was as bad as when I was r*ped by my uncle.

PM me if you EVER need someone to talk to.
 
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Theotokos protect you all!
 
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