Hi all, been away for quite a while due to various things in life blowing up. I have pancreatic cancer and will by dying in the near future. 6-12 months is the life expectancy. I've been seeing my pastor at home for visits and the Lord's Supper. My doc wants me to consider going into hospice although right now, I'm not ready. I think when I'm entirely or close to being bedfast, I'll do it.
My husband is not a Lutheran but has attended church with me for a couple of years. He has this burning desire to speak about me at the memorial/funeral service. I said that the appropriate place would be at the after the funeral luncheon (do Lutheran's even do that?) in the recreation room. I want the pastor to do the standard funeral. Do I pick out any songs or is it all on him to select the music?
I'm not sure what to ask him about the funeral or when to start discussing it even. He knows I'm terminal, so it's not unexpected. I want to have the proper service, but I also want my husband to feel some closure with being able to speak. Although neither he nor I can come up with anything to say.
So, can anyone enlighten me on how this all works so I don't sound like an idiot when I talk to my pastor?
My husband is not a Lutheran but has attended church with me for a couple of years. He has this burning desire to speak about me at the memorial/funeral service. I said that the appropriate place would be at the after the funeral luncheon (do Lutheran's even do that?) in the recreation room. I want the pastor to do the standard funeral. Do I pick out any songs or is it all on him to select the music?
I'm not sure what to ask him about the funeral or when to start discussing it even. He knows I'm terminal, so it's not unexpected. I want to have the proper service, but I also want my husband to feel some closure with being able to speak. Although neither he nor I can come up with anything to say.
So, can anyone enlighten me on how this all works so I don't sound like an idiot when I talk to my pastor?