Puzzling comment from brother

What did he turn to? Away from family and the lord to what. To be alone. Is he back in your life. I always get things wrong according to other people. That’s a pretty huge mistake on someone’s part. Are you back in church? Pursue him. (your brother). You both need the lord.

Grafted In said:

About 8 years ago,my brother broke off our relationship. His reason was that, at the time, I was struggling and in great despair and had stopped going to church.

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One possibility is a person can't handle hearing about stuff that is hard for you. It can be hard for that person, too.

So, trust Jesus to do what He desires with you.

"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)

Jesus is almighty to be able to get rid of stuff which would get you into despair. And He can change us so we are like Him and loving like Him. This is what God does. God is powerful enough and spiritual enough.

Its hard to say with limited info on the situation and dynamics. But generally theres a few reasons I think that happen in most situations from my experience.

First I think it could be theres not a lot to read and its just life taking its course. I am not sure how old you and your brother are. But sometimes maybe around later teens into early 20s and really from then on men can be unpredictable and go off on their own tangent for all sorts of reasons in finding themselves. Or meeting a partner or a change or opportunity. Could be a number of reasons.

Another alternative is that true feelings are never communicated. I know growing up and it depends on the situation. But it seems especially nowadays that families don't communicate their true feelings usually because of some issue. Things can be assumed and never really said. Sometimes sibling rivalry over some past issue that one or the other is not aware of.

Dropping out of the church sounds like a big change and people can become focused on themselves about whats going on in their life and not see whats going on with others. Just on a different wavelength so to speak.

Or it could be some undealt with issue between you and your brother. Maybe one that one sibling feels stronger about than the other. You obviously are concerned and want to work it out with your brother. It seems you have somethng in common in that you both have dropped out of church around the same time.

These are just possibilities from my experience and knowledge that may apply. None of them necessarily apply but are options to consider.

I know families are so complicated today and I really think generally we have broken down that family fabric of bloods thicker than water. I had drifted away from my family when young due to divorce and me and my brothers and sisters ended up living in seperate States and over the years have drifted apart.

Though we still have contact thanks to social media. But generally I think its harder sometimes to have relations with family and siblings than friends in todays society.

But I wonder if we did not split what sort of family life that would have been. Nevertheless I have my own family now and I can tell you we have had our problems as well lol.

Its good that you talk and ask advice as this is really the answer. Its communicating and finding out. Or getting options and advice that helps get a better perspective. Ultimately the aim is to reconcile with your brother and get on a level where you can talk about whatever.

I think just being interested in him and what he;s up to over a beer if you drink. Otherwise a cuppa tea. The more you do it the more familiar people become. If it doesn't happen at first then it is not the time as sometimes people move on and then come back. A bit like the prodigal son. I was a prodigal son lol.

But I think just being interested and concerned out of love never does any harm.