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Nothing huge... but still something I'm not proud of

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Ok well basically although I'm twenty I ever since I broke up a year-long relationship a few weeks ago I've been thinking like I did back in high school - where I keep looking at girls thinking "Maybe... maybe..."

It's not something I'm happy about - I want to be able to think of other young ladies as people, not potential spouses or girlfriends. Because of this I find it hard to talk to girls because I get the wrong idea going through my mind. I've always struggled with allowing myself to get led on (in my mind, not from the other party) and it's made it hard for me.

I would love to be with the lady God's going to let me marry, but until I'm with her I don't want to think of ANYONE about having potential. It's frustrating me a lot.

If I could get this under control it would be a lot easier for me to comfortably socialise with females, as well as helping me to show more respect for them in my mind. This is something I really, really want to fix.

I know it's probably a natural thing, but I don't think that too many other blokes have this problem to the same level I do. I don't know if I'm exaggerating it to myself, either way I would still appreciate some advice and prayer.

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i'm not a bloke, but i just wanted to say i HEAR YA!!!

since i turned 30, it's really hard to avoid the "meat market" mentality.... is he the one? oooh, is he????

it's a struggle. maybe because it seems like "not much", it does more damage that it seems? the little foxes destroy the vine and all that......
 
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It makes it even harder cos I see all these pretty young ladies around and I'm like "awww..." etc. I know God is going to bring me together with the right one - if I ever am actually ready for it.

I honestly would prefer to stay single if I'm not ready to be married (which I know I'm not right now) but on the other hand I really want to be with someone.

Silly brain.

I actually read something interesting in the news - oestrogen actually influences the male sex drive! It has been basically proven that without oestrogen, men actually have no sex drive. They tested this on mice, and apparently there's only 5 men in the world naturally with no oestrogen and they basically all live at home with their parents, have no sex drive and just like to sit at home most of the time. They treated one of them with oestrogen and his sex drive increased a lot.

But I'm not like that.... I want to be with someone even though I love sitting at home and playing my drums and computer games .

Man I'm boring .
 
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