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Not Sure What To Do.....

BeanMak

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You can go to court without a lawyer. In Illinois, there are family court advisers, and you make an appointment, and sit- usually all day, they they will help you make the paper work you need to file motions with the court. She doesn't have a right to move out of state, and she doesn't have a right to make it so hard on your husband to see his kids. Pull out his divorce papers and read the child provisions. That will be a guide to what the judge will ask of her.
 
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So the mother moved the kids. She said that if we want them more than one weekend a month (which she will only meet us halfway and from saturday to sunday instead of friday to sunday) we have to drive the full 3 1/2 hrs one way to get the kids. We're looking at $50 for meeting her halfway one weekend and $100 in gas the other weekend. She is married but her husband wont drive the other weekend. She is still demanding the full child support on top of making us incur most of the transportation costs.

The divorce decree states nothing about her not being able to move. However - it does state that my husband is to have bi weekly custody from Friday 6 pm to Sunday 6 pm.

We live in Georgia and she resides in Florida now.

This is beyond ridiculous.
She is more than apparently trying to make her new husband the kids "dad" and making it as inconvenient and expensive on us as possible to see the kids as little as she can get by with.
Gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

So when my husband asked what her address is so we could get the kids - she of course never responded. This was to be my husband's custody weekend.... but without an address - I'm not driving all over Destin FL not knowing where they live.


I am beyond frustrated with this woman. We have tried to talk to her as politely as possible, asking her to reconsider the move or to transfer custody of the children to us and simply switch the visitation schedule. But NOOOOO she wants to be a flipping control freak - regardless of what anyone else may be affected by her choices.

Since I can't deal out an old fashioned butt whooping - we're meeting with a lawyer Monday to find out what our options are.

My husband has also come across some things on his credit history that he is having to research - but he said the possibility of his ex using his name for a loan wouldn't be unlike her character.
 
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I'm glad you're both meeting with a lawyer. That can't possibly be legal for her to do this, considering the court order for custody. It should've been top on her priority to let your husband know what her new address would be once things were finalized on her end. Clearly, she is being immature and hopefully, it will cost her some humbling, an apology and a more smooth relationship for everyone from here on out.
 
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She considers meeting us an "inconvenience" (she has actually said/text that) and her husband is now the kids "dad" so my husband "doesnt need to worry about them anymore". But my husband better not be one day late on CS or she is "taking him to court for more money" She needs a psychiatric evaluation.
 
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