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I find it interesting how most everyone assumed unattractive to = overweight. I'm in shape and thin, but I've been made fun of and called ugly not b/c of my body shape but of my facial features. There's not a lot I can do about that besides surgury (which I've considered over the years and would do if i had the money for it). I'm working on becoming more comfortable in my own skin (the whole confidence thing). I think i have a certian beauty that my perfect features, blond hair, big chest =beauty, saturated community doesn't recognize. I sometimes feel hopeless about finding a guy that will love me for who i am and think i'm pretty, but I do hope that he is out there and that we find each other soon.
No one here can post something that will change this phenomenon, but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone in thinking this.
I, for example, don't find this funny, while others clearly do.
I can't believe you would consider surgeryI find it interesting how most everyone assumed unattractive to = overweight. I'm in shape and thin, but I've been made fun of and called ugly not b/c of my body shape but of my facial features. There's not a lot I can do about that besides surgury (which I've considered over the years and would do if i had the money for it). I'm working on becoming more comfortable in my own skin (the whole confidence thing). I think i have a certian beauty that my perfect features, blond hair, big chest =beauty, saturated community doesn't recognize. I sometimes feel hopeless about finding a guy that will love me for who i am and think i'm pretty, but I do hope that he is out there and that we find each other soon.
looks aren't everything so I'm not suprised.I wasn't trying to be funny. I'm pointing out that different kinds of people have found love. I know quite a few fat people, and ugly people, and stupid people who have found love and gotten married.
Oh well, you don't have to believe it. I still would consider it. My reasons would be to have a little peace with myself, not to try and acheive perfection. No one has to understand that, it's ok.I can't believe you would consider surgery
Who says you're not attractive? Not everyone is looking for the same thing, Hon'! Different people are attracted to different things, and honestly, I will tell you, there are some great guys out there who don't even see the outward appearance. They really see through inside and appreciate that. That kind of guy is a keeper.
If you have good reasons that matter to you for doing anything, you should do it. Because it is like a little piece of yourself dies when you deny something important to you. And I am not just talking about surgery, I am also talking about dreams and aspirations along with desires that are not unGodly.Oh well, you don't have to believe it. I still would consider it. My reasons would be to have a little peace with myself, not to try and acheive perfection. No one has to understand that, it's ok.
God made us all beautiful, why would you want to change that?Oh well, you don't have to believe it. I still would consider it. My reasons would be to have a little peace with myself, not to try and acheive perfection. No one has to understand that, it's ok.
God also gave us the ability to change. One of the greatest gifts we are given. If we do not like something about ourselves, we can change it. Be it physical or behavioral, we can change ourselves. No one should settle if it they truly desire more. We should always be striving for better. This is not condoning greed or selfishness. It is just that we have certain stuff on our hearts for a reason, and we should not be so quick to tell anybody not to persue what is truly there deep down.God made us all beautiful, why would you want to change that?
ya change if were doing something ungodly....God also gave us the ability to change. One of the greatest gifts we are given. If we do not like something about ourselves, we can change it. Be it physical or behavioral, we can change ourselves. No one should settle if it they truly desire more. We should always be striving for better. This is not condoning greed or selfishness. It is just that we have certain stuff on our hearts for a reason, and we should not be so quick to tell anybody not to persue what is truly there deep down.
Because I don't always see certian features that He gave me as beautiful and I don't think it's a sin to get plastic surgury. I've heard all the arguments against it, but given the chance I would have it. I know I wouldn't go overboard with it. Really the only reservations I have is spending that amount of money on myself and the pain. but really I think if someone admits they would get surgery it's really sort of rude to heckle them about it. I would be the one making that choice and I would be fine with it. I'm pretty sure God would still love me anyway even if I chose to change something about my appearance. This isn't a silly little whim of mine; i've thought a lot about it. I wouldn't be doing it to attract or lure or entice men with my looks; it would be more so i would have a peace about a certian aspect of myself. Anyways, you can believe whatever you want. I really don't expect anyone to understand.God made us all beautiful, why would you want to change that?
I think I get where you're coming from. While I haven't had plastic surgery, I have done something about my appearance so that I'm not nearly as self-conscious as I used to be. It's unsettling and draining to constantly be identified by something negative about one's physique. I think there is perception that people who do anything about how they look are narcisistic. Little do they know that some just want to be left alone and live normal lives.Because I don't always see certian features that He gave me as beautiful and I don't think it's a sin to get plastic surgury. I've heard all the arguments against it, but given the chance I would have it. I know I wouldn't go overboard with it. Really the only reservations I have is spending that amount of money on myself and the pain. but really I think if someone admits they would get surgery it's really sort of rude to heckle them about it. I would be the one making that choice and I would be fine with it. I'm pretty sure God would still love me anyway even if I chose to change something about my appearance. This isn't a silly little whim of mine; i've thought a lot about it. I wouldn't be doing it to attract or lure or entice men with my looks; it would be more so i would have a peace about a certian aspect of myself. Anyways, you can believe whatever you want. I really don't expect anyone to understand.
Thats a bit harsh to say to God IMHO. Just think of all the complicationsBecause I don't always see certian features that He gave me as beautiful and I don't think it's a sin to get plastic surgury. I've heard all the arguments against it, but given the chance I would have it. I know I wouldn't go overboard with it. Really the only reservations I have is spending that amount of money on myself and the pain. but really I think if someone admits they would get surgery it's really sort of rude to heckle them about it. I would be the one making that choice and I would be fine with it. I'm pretty sure God would still love me anyway even if I chose to change something about my appearance. This isn't a silly little whim of mine; i've thought a lot about it. I wouldn't be doing it to attract or lure or entice men with my looks; it would be more so i would have a peace about a certian aspect of myself. Anyways, you can believe whatever you want. I really don't expect anyone to understand.
yes, that's kinda it. I don't like being noticed at first glance for something I'm really not comfortable with. I'm an extremely shy person and I don't like lots of negative attention about something that even I don't even like. It is draining. To me , something like plastic surgery is no different from coloring graying hair, using rogaine, losing weight, etc... is to a lot of other people. It's not like i'm getting it tommorrow or anything. I don't have the money and I don't have anyone that would help me while i recupperate and i'm even sort of embaressed about going to talk to a dr. about it.I think I get where you're coming from. While I haven't had plastic surgery, I have done something about my appearance so that I'm not nearly as self-conscious as I used to be. It's unsettling and draining to constantly be identified by something negative about one's physique. I think there is perception that people who do anything about how they look are narcisistic. Little do they know that some just want to be left alone and live normal lives.
never said it was lolI didn't say it to God. I posted it on here. God knows my heart and i think i have a pretty good relationship with Him and i really don't think He minds if i get plastic surgery or not. It doesn't change my heart or my salvation. Yes, there are risks, but that doesn't mean it's a sin.
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